Im 20 years old guy , who never kissed a girld , dated only 1 girl,almost dont have real friends , feel lonely and misunderstood. so theres a case for example if theres my friend and he invites some girls at his place to drink something and hang out i feel always pushing new peoples away , i dont wanna get to know them , i feel them uninteresting with bad sense of humour ,i always make other peoples laugh and everyone says im very funny person but i lack other things i dont know which ones ;/ i dated only 1 girl in my lifetime and it went really bad , i only asked ''can i kiss you on about 20th date, and she said no ''im looking into you as a good friend'' i felt so dissapointed and felt sorry for my wasted time ;/ after this time i nearly gave up, now everytime i start conversation with a girl i always turn my back and running away somwhere , not that im shy or anything just maybe because im arrogant i dont know what is wrong with me really , i feel really jelous for other peoples who are together and kissing eachother.sorry for my bad english , if anyone know what is this please help me

as for additional info i can say that when im talking with potential girl which i can really as out or on a date i feel like shit (not shy) but i feel like i worth nothing , what her friends gonna think of me , what her family gonna think of me and i automatically get turned off and run away,mostly maybe because i dont know how things work in relationships , i cant read girls signs, never making eye contact to stranger girls what is my problem

Your problem is your entire world view; just look at your username. If you see life as a bitch; shitty, mean, inhospitable, that's the way its gonna be with you. Perception is reality, thats why NLP works (if you really believe in something, it becomes true, and this goes both ways, good and bad).

So start from the beginning; all your failures are a thing of the past, don't dwell on them, but learn from them. Your issues are with confidence; and your beliefs in yourself. Focus on the "now", not what has already happened, not what "could" happen, but now. Best way to re-affirm your life is to take up a challenging (yet productive) past-time; something that you have a passion for, like a sport, the more time you spend outside, mingling with others, the better. Focus on doing something, rather than sitting around and moping about how much you suck.

So don't get caught up in past mistakes, they are holding you back. Change your world view and perception of yourself, get in the "now", play some sports, go to the gym, spend time in the "outside" world (just going for a walk is better than sitting inside and watching tv). You have your own strengths, so find them, and do what you want to do, live the life you want to live; no regrets. Get out there!

thnx man i appreciate that . the problem is i was immature too long and im now 20 years old with no knwoledge where and how to start with girls i feel like shit when talking to a girl

I know how you feel. I'm trying to get past this stage too and its pretty difficult.

I think when you're starting to feel like shit is just what YOU think she should think of you. (This sentence is weird ) If you think you are a shit, you are a shit.

I know its really difficult but its impossible to get everybody to love us. So if someone likes you, cool but if somebody doesnt... then f**k her or him. They pass on a wonderful chance to know a great individual.


«Whether you think that you can, or that you can't, you are usually right. »
Henry Ford

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if i concentrate on my carreer and my passions and ignore all womens will it work? i mean will i get a girlfriend this way someday?