Ok, I'm new to the game and this forum (this is my 2nd post).

Last night 2 of my closest friends, (a male buddy of mine and a 6 foot tall platinum blond dutch girl I work with) and I went out to a bar/club that had a dj and "ladies night". Being recently single I dressed and groomed as best I know how, but my wardrobe definitely needs updating. I am also an ok looking guy, 6'6" and athletic, ok face, but nothing special. My height always attracts attention. Anyway, beginning of the night - I have my confidence together, I walk in the place, I immediately notice several pairs of eyes on me, and it turns out there really are a lot of ladies at "ladies night". Anyway, getting checked out really shakes my confidence for some reason, like it puts a lot of pressure on the situation for me.

My friends and I stake out a spot at a small standing height table. I scan the room, talk to my friends, trying to remember not to put my hands in my pockets and to just relax and have a good time. About 45 minutes go by and 2 hot girls HB8 and HB9 come over to our side of the bar and claim a nearby table. They were checking me out as obviously as possible, making eyes, talking to each other while glancing at me. This was obviously the time to go over and say hi. I completely blanked. 3 second rule... completely blown. 5 minutes later, my dutch friend is telling me to go offer to buy them a drink (ugh)... Eventually she goes over and tries to introduce me, after a super awkward hello, they move to a different part of the bar. As more time went on I got more shaken up and anxious, I kept kicking myself for not talking to those 2 girls and didn't even think about trying to open with anyone else, it was just easier to drink and forget about it.

Almost all the hot chicks left after midnight when the drink special ended. The night degenerated into a ring of dudes around the perimeter of the place eyeing the few remaining girls like a bunch of vultures... At this point I just had about 4 more beers to get a heavy buzz on, talked with my friends, and decided I really need to battle this anxiety...

Thanks for reading.

M

looks like it got you out of state, the best way to overcome it is to anchor a very positive self confident feeling.... and the next time when something like this happens, just fire the positive anchor(s) to get you back in the right state