Hey, I have a huge problem..I have very bad social anxiety. It means.. it doesn't actually matter if I want to talk to man or a woman..I feel tremendous anxiety. Last night I was in a club and I just sat there on the coush in the busyest place in the club for two hours..it was a real pain.. just SITTING there I felt huge anxiety. Well..atleast it is true..if you sit alone then you really are invisible.. And even when I walk in school..I feel anxiety..it really is killing me..I'm soo sick of it. Yeah..I am advised to talk to stranger about random stuff but..I have NOTHING to talk about when I am in that kind of situation..Help!

For me it's not so much anxiety as just not having anything to say. I hate being in 1 on 1 situations with anyone. I am fine in groups, but I dread the moment when I am left alone with somebody. I instantly notice the silences and start to get anxious, so I go out of my way to avoid these situations. I really hate it but I don't think I can change it, I've been like it my whole life

Force yourself to overcome this.

When they are sitting next to you, smile and say hi, tell them your name. "Hi, I'm (insert name), how are you doin today?" If a girl, say hey I really like your earrings, shirt, were did ya get it? If your in class make small talk "man this class sucks or this is so boring". When you talk look them in the eyes (even if you blush) just have a conversation. If you have to pretend they are a sibling or someone you feel comfortable with and just talk.

It will take practice but eventually you will overcome most of it. There is absolutely no other way to go around this type of problem. I can assure you that many people have had this problem and the only way they were able to overcome it was by forcing themselves. Force yourself to overcome this.

When they are sitting next to you, smile and say hi, tell them your name. "Hi, I'm (insert name), how are you doin today?" If a girl, say hey I really like your earrings, shirt, were did ya get it? If your in class make small talk "man this class sucks or this is so boring". When you talk look them in the eyes (even if you blush) just have a conversation. If you have to pretend they are a sibling or someone you feel comfortable with and just talk.

It will take practice but eventually you will overcome it.
Good luck kid

-Cold_Fire