| *Hello! This is a post I made on the FR/LR forums, but it is essentially the method in which I went about changing my inner game completely, defeating my anxiety and forming a natural game that works for me. I see that this forum is pretty inactive so I hope you enjoy!*
Let me warn you, this is going to be a long post. But my hope and belief is that there will be a lot of useful information in for (but not limited to) college-aged RAFC's. I will be making an effort to condense my main points in the interest of length.
A little background on me: Lost virginity at 16. When I turned 22 in December, right before I learned about PUA, I had laid about 20 girls. Most were 6-7's, and when I did lay girls, it was mostly of like bottom feeding on LSE girls. But I always struggled with what I thought was "anxiety" or "depression." I am 5'9" 185 pounds, with a medium athletic build (some fat rolls on stomach and love handles). I certainly was not happy with my life, and I would come to find the true remedy to these problems.
How I can honestly explain how THE CONFIDENCE TAUGHT BY PICKUP HAS CHANGED MY LIFE, IN EVERY ASPECT:
Of all pick-up gurus, Gunwitch's methods and ideas have most congruently fit with my observations out in the field. (I urge anyone to read Gunwitch 1&2 who has not.) While I can understand how canned lines and such may work for openers, to rely solely on a canned formula to go from Opener-> close requires about 100x more effort than needed.
The first thing that I did was got my inner game together.
I found it ESSENTIAL to fix every thing in my life that ever struck me with anxiety.
The things i needed to do in order to feel like a confident, alpha male were: Get a job, Get a clean-cut hair cut, make sure I am groomed everywhere I go, work out (it is amazing how fast your body responds do a good work out regime, same with eating healthy), Force myself to be a positive person and always project myself as a positive person. FUCKING SMILE! FUCKING ALWAYS MAKE EYE CONTACT! NOT WEIRD EYE CONTACT THOUGH!
I found that without at least working on the things above, my game around girls was at about 5% capacity. (You get the idea)
APPROACH ANXIETY HAS A SURE-FIRE CURE:
Do the noobie quest! (Go to a bar, MAKE EYE CONTACT, AND SAY "Hi" and wait for her response. Do this to every girl that you pass.) Once I was used to the fact that girls LOVE BEING TALKED TO, it makes your life completely different.
THE OPENER THAT I USE ON EVERY SINGLE GIRL THAT I EVER WANT TO TALK TO WITH 99% CHANCE TO AT LEAST START A CONVERSATION:
Me: (smiling, eye contact, positioning my body with confidence) Hi.
Her: Hi!
Me: How's it going?
Her: pretty good. (or if you're lucky you get: BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH)
Me: (15 seconds should have passed, she is realizing I am confident and fun, I have had ample time to think of something to say about her shirt, or the bar were at, or the weather, or the guy stumbling around drunk.)
For me, the topic of conversation is pretty irrelevant. Just talk about bullshit untill you find something shes passionate about.
I have found it extremely hard to pull girls from bars and clubs to f close, but have gotten numerous (25+) kiss close's and grinding dances from just talking to whoever is looking hot.
CONCLUSION: THE GIRLS THAT I FCLOSED ON:
HB6 Neighbor's friend from out of town.
HB7 Neighbor.
HB7 My brother's FB's friend.
HB8 "19" year old Canadian Girl Down from Spring Break. (same day lay)
HB8 Ex-FB while back in town for Spring Break.
Do you see a pattern here? I find it much easier to focus on laying girls that you already have a firmer rapport with. But it should also be mentioned that I do not focus on my number close's, as they seem to require a ton of work, and have a high flake ratio.
JUST A REVIEW OF MY MAIN POINTS:
1: ELIMINATE ANY ANXIETIES THAT BOTHER YOUR BRAIN AT ALL. FOR SOME THIS MAY BE PAINFUL, BUT IT IS NECESSARY.
2: WANT TO TO BE THE SHIT. THINK YOU ARE THE SHIT. MAKE YOURSELF THE SHIT. BE THE SHIT.
3: ONCE YOU HAVE THE CONFIDENCE TO OPEN EVERY CONVERSATION YOU WANT, (MALE OR FEMALE) YOU WILL NEVER REGRET A MISSED OPPORTUNITY, AND THAT IS LIFE-CHANGING SHIT.
4: FOR ME, THE BEST WAY TO BECOME A PUA IS DEVELOP YOUR NATURAL SELF AS A PUA. BY DEVELOPING NATURAL GAME, YOU ARE PROGRESSING AND WIDENING YOUR SKILL-SET THROUGH EVERY INTERACTION YOU HAVE. INSTEAD OF HAVING TO BE A 3RD PERSON IN AN INTERACTION (YOUR PUA CANNED KNOWLEDGE, YOU, HB), YOU JUST FLOW AND ADAPT TO EVERY INTERACTION!
5: EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW IS IN GUNWITCH METHOD!!!!!!!
I'd like to close by saying that I am still an RAFC, and no where near where I intend to be in 2 or 3 years. But what I am saying, is that I have been depressed pretty much my whole life, and I haven't been for the past 3 months. I am happier and more confident than I have ever been in my whole life. Everyone around me notices it, and it feels amazing. I can only thank the PUA community for this. I did not come up with any of these concepts, these are just my experiences when applying the knowledge that I have learned. Pretty much all of this is straight out of the Gunwitch method.
*I can elaborate on anything anyone has questions about. Thanks for reading, and if one person benefits from this, then this post has ful-filled it's reason for me.*
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