| Wasn't sure where to post this but figured here would probs be the right place as it has something to do with inner game in my opinion. I haven't posted on this forum in a long time however I wanted to share this just incase it may inspire someone to do the same if they are having the same struggle.
Lately I've been developing some oneitis for a girl I've known for a while now. I've feared that I was in the friend zone for some time but could never quite tell. It's really been getting on my nerves and I've known for a while that there's only 1 real way to know for sure. So I manned up. I took the little kid inside me that has always been afraid of telling someone close how I really feel and slapped him in the face whilst yelling "FUCKING GROW UP YOU BABY AND BE A DAMN MAN ABOUT IT" so today I finally manned up. I told her "I'm tired of beating about the bush, so in a nutshell, I like you as more than a friend" she replied "Being purely honest, I don't see you as more than a friend and I'm really sorry".
This sucks.
Indeed.
Mmmyes.
Quite.
But I am enlightened. My balls have swelled to epic proportion and although I feel really bad right now, I know that this will eventually pass and I now KNOW FOR A FACT that I have the balls for it. That I can fucking man up when I need to and say what needs to be said.
Now I'm well aware that just blatantly saying what I said probably wasn't the best way of getting the girl, and was probably very "AFC" of me some may even say. However, over the past year that I have been doing this stuff this is the first time I feel I have REALLY put my balls on the line. Telling a girl I like her more than a friend is something I have never come close to doing, I mean there is meeting girls on cold approaches that you have no attachment to but this is someone I went to school with and have known for a while so it's a different dynamic to consider.
Just as a side note, I still don't think this "sarge" is completely dead in the water, I don't think it would take allot to sway her into "where I want her" you know.
Anyway I guess this post is for the guys reading that don't know how to find the words sometimes to say what they are thinking, or are afraid of making themselves a little vulnerable. All I can say is DO IT.
I got shot down, this is true. However although after this I felt like shit (you all know the feeling I mean) I kid you not, for half an hour at least I couldn't stop smiling. I honestly couldn't control it, I didn't feel like smiling but I was, and I think one of my wings hit the nail on the head when he said "that's your pride overcoming all the negativity from that situation, although you feel bad about being shot down you are even MORE proud of yourself for standing up to your fears."
I hope this post makes sense to someone because truth be told I am a little bit tipsy right now, however I do believe that it is important for everyone to realise that sometimes the AFC action, whilst of course not always successful, is the best course of action, plus you can learn allot about yourself and your emotions from doing so.
Just as a little extra I'd like to say that without discovering this community I'd have never found the courage to spill my "feelings" with anyone. I've come a long long way in the last year and owe a huge debt to not only my wing men where I live, but to those who have offered advice here on this forum so many times.
Thanks guys, rant over,
Musterion _________________ "My toughest opponent is always myself"
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