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| g3orge_florin | PostPosted: Mon Nov 16, 2009 10:19 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Mon Nov 16, 2009 9:44 pm Posts: 15 | | I am confortable around people, even when they are not friendly, but i get nervous when a girl is giving me IOIs and I feel I must run away imediately. I have strong knowledge about the theory of the game but this is something deeper. Analysing myself, I discovered that I am not social(I just don't want to socialize because most of the people where gelous on my intelligence and my body, I don't want to brag), I can't imagine myself achieving succes closing with a woman because I still consider myself the 8 years old mommy boy(i am still the nonsexual nice guy) even despite I am 21 years old (virgin, never had a girlfriend).
People consider approching anxiety identical cu fear of rejection. I don't know if it's even fear of succes in my case.
When I was 14 years old, I was deeply in love with a few girls, but I was thinking exactly like a girl at that time: I was expecting the girl to come to me and control the evolution of the relationship and even when that happen(because I am very handsome - I used to base my attraction on looks wich is fairly feminine and WRONG for a man) I was scared that the society(who never wanted me to succed) will disagree(my mom beat me hard when i was obeying the society will) so I ran away from succes every time.Because most of the time girls weren't "the man" for me I started to hate them and their biggest punish was to stay away from them, to ignore them. I still have that mindset of a frustrated single girl, and when I meet a girl I stop thinking on anything I just get angry and ready to "fight". I don't know even if I am frightned.
The problem is that I cannot game with the tactis I learned because I always enter in alter state.
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| MKelso | PostPosted: Wed Nov 18, 2009 3:01 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Mon Nov 16, 2009 2:51 pm Posts: 2 Location: Slovenia | | Hi,
it seems as an inner game issue. David D has a program on that. For now, try takling positive to yoursef (your inner voice, when you talk in your head). Make some female friends. Once bonded ask for their help and oppinion (and disregard it). Hopefully that will give you some orientation where you should go from there.
regards M _________________ Evolution will ...
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| g3orge_florin | PostPosted: Fri Nov 20, 2009 10:38 am | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Mon Nov 16, 2009 9:44 pm Posts: 15 | | I've watched 2 years ago David DeAngelo - Masteries and 77 laws of atraction and it helped more only to develop my analytical skills.I agree about 75% of his home made stuff.I belief more in RSD stuff wich it's based on bootcamps. Now since I have a huge knowledge of pick-up(outter game - tactics, inner game - beliefs) and some about NLP and hypnosis I think that everyone who has problems beeing a pua must first analyse his problems, make a customed self-hypnosis tape that resolve his problems and only then he will be able to hit the field. It's painfull to go in the field to try some tatics based on some reframing you heard in books because beliefs can be hardly changed(i.e. : go only to get skill, or every approach it's a succes, or you're great !).
Now, I have no more the time and energy to become a pua, so whenever I feel lonely or need just to be entertain, I play Dota wich has the power to grab my attention completly and change my desire for moment.
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| DonPua | PostPosted: Sun Nov 22, 2009 11:43 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Zealot | Joined: Thu Feb 05, 2009 2:06 am Posts: 335 | | You have to reprogram yourself. Start to think as positive as you can. Stop being so angry. Being angry isn't attractive. Having a cool and positive attitude is what is really attractive. Don't blame girls for your unhappiness, blame yourself. I personally think you have severe approach anxiety because if you wouldn't be scared you would have opened a lot of sets and received a lot of IOI's so you would be more comfortable with getting them. So my advice for you would be to try to see the positive in every situation and get over your AA.
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