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PostPosted: Thu Nov 12, 2009 2:25 am 
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Hey friends, i hope you will some how motivate me... I was doing this Stylelife first day challenge.... Like opening 5 different people... while i was doing it i found several things that for me is hard to do:
1. Open people in public places were there are many people near like subway
2. Open set of people. I can open one girl in a street, but its problem to me to ask something or say when there are 2-3 or more people
3. Hard to say something which is beyond social topics... like make a complement... I can ask direction or answer something if i am asked... or just say some jokes to a waitress or shop-girl.....


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PostPosted: Thu Nov 12, 2009 10:42 am 
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hey Tyler, it takes a little it of time to get over AA.. and it just takes practice more than anything!

Opening people on the subway (or any busy public transport for that matter) is difficult, people just want to get along on their journey without being disturbed or listened to by weird strangers.
So don't worry about it, i wouldn't consider it a sticking point..

Opening sets of people can be a little bit more daunting because you are outnumbered.. but people sence confidence glowing off other people. Find something to talk to them about and do it confidently..

when i was doing the stylelife challenge - i opened a random couple that was looking at the same de-oderants as me in the shops.. we were looking at similar items when i "accidentally" bumped into the girl.. the guy wasn't too happy - but i said to them..

"sorry for cramping your style, i didn't mean it (haha) i'm just in deep though about what fragrance to wear"

i commented on the can of spray that guy had in his hand and told him that it is a good one and that it goes well with this certain type of aftershave.. i immediatly asked them to suggest something for me..
and then the woman in the couple started furiously looking for smells which she thought would suit me..

thats what the 5 openers challenge is about... just opening and talking to strangers.. to boost your confidence in cold opening random people.

If you want to say something beyond regualr social topics.. you have to build comfort and rapport with the target in order to work your way up to a more seductive manner of speech...

confidence, and practice and you'll be sarging women everywhere just out of habit in no time!

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PostPosted: Fri Nov 13, 2009 2:17 am 
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Today was a new day... and new stylelife challenge... Talk to 5 people and make eye contact...

Here is one of my approaches:

I was waiting for the bus to downtown when i suddenly saw this guy staying in a line with archery equipment. (arrows..etc), i thought that it is my chance... I waited for a 30 second speaking to my self that i must....

Then i came to him and asked:
Me: Are these arrows real?
He smiled to my and answered: "Yea, I am from universities archery club!"
Me: Cool so you can kill someone with this thing! (I was smiling) Do you need any license to take it with you ?
Him: Yea i can kill, but unfortunately i am not so good at this thing....
Then we talked approximately 10 minutes about University clubs, about archery... I found many interesting things...That's great experience!
Generally speaking, I was not just staying 10 minutes and silently waiting for this fucking bus, i was having fan! That's Great... I don't think that it is solution for the AA.... But its a nice start isn't it ?

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PostPosted: Fri Nov 13, 2009 6:05 am 
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Not at all man!! that is an excellent start! - put it this way, if you were still feeling so crippled by AA, you would'nt have even talked to the guy in the first place!

so it is progress, no matter how you look at it! - 1 down, 4 to go :)

you're right it saying that is not the solution to rid yourself of AA, you have to put yourself in a situation where you are uncomfortable and keep plowing through it, but like i mentioned, practice - and don't fret if you get a bad reaction from people.. ha!, here in Scotland - if you ask someone anything on the street - a lot of the time they just yell "f*ck off min!" so you get used to being shunned out sometimes.

If you remember in the Game, Mystery even went out into town hundreds of times trying to talk to girls and failed a lot - before he got fucking good.

Soon you'll overcome AA, and learn to be comfotable and relaxed when talking to a group of people, or a gorgeous woman..

hang it there! keep me updated! ;)

-Illusionist, the Evil Scotsman-

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PostPosted: Fri Nov 13, 2009 10:00 pm 
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WHOOOOOOP

:) I want in on the juicy updates aswell, and maybe one day I'll do this stranger talkin to.


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PostPosted: Sat Nov 14, 2009 12:31 am 
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what are the stylelife challenges?

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PostPosted: Fri Nov 27, 2009 7:21 am 
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the stylelife challenge is a book that's titled " Rules of the game " .

Go get it .

It works ;]

though i hope that you seriously get pass day 5 .

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