Hi all, i have noticed i have a social shyness, and makes me act very nervous around people.

I have always been a 'nice guy' and like AFC's, never got the women i wanted, so basically i relise i need to start learning how to build attraction etc...
but before i learn all that, i want to iron out a few of my issues, on a one on one basis with women im normally really confident even around HB10's, but when im in a room with say a HB10 and a few others i get abit nervous and dont talk much,i think i worry to much what people think, I have always been abit soft with people i dont like conflict so i play it safe.

So how can i be more alpha and assertive, also from what iv just said, does it sound like i have a major social issue?

I consider myself to be goodlooking and have quite a goodlife, although my work situation isnt good, im unhappy with what job i do (im a carpenter) but its hard to find work at the moment so how could i make use of all my spare time?

Thanks for reading
Dave

Hi one-life (lots of two's)

I'll try to give a few tips, by answering what you wrote.

1. Social shyness is a very normal thing. Try to observe the most confident people, and you'll see they have it as well. The only difference is, that they learnt how to manage it. You'll need to get to that point.

2. Being a nice guy is good, just make sure you do not confuse nice with weak.

3. I used to care what people thought of me ass well. This is a major game destroyer. You will have to go to an internal system of caring about how people should quilify to you. Instead of the other way around.

4. I think how to be more alpha is something you should model to your personality. But keep reading, check out links and stories of other PUA's. You'll get there.

5. You do not have a social issue. You're creating one if you keep asking yourself and others though.

6. Jezus was a carpenter. I'd defo use that as a DHV with a chick. A lot of young people dont know what to do for work. Even the ones with a great career. Just try and find some new challenges. There are always people out there that can use whatever skills you have.

7. Plan you're spare time. a few hours for studying pick up, a few hours to execute. a few hours to find a new job, etc. etc.

8. Good luck.

9. Greetz

10. Buccaneer

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Buccaneer is right, being considered the "nice guy" is a good thing, especially with very attractive women, I mean thank about it - the deal with asshole alpa dipshits everyday, and get wiped off like fresh turd..

The thing you have going is "nice guy" but not "sexual authority".. You have to harness the fact that you are comfortable with women and start pouring in more sexual confidence.

You're winning half the battle!

Again, like the wise Buccaneer said - you dont have a social problem, you just have to assert the next part of the PUA into your life.. and don't get driven away by a room full of people - try keep yourself in the fray whenever you can to get yourself used to it..it'll be your playgorund eventually!

and job wise, just becasue Jesus was a carpenter does not mean it'll put food on the table and payments on the mortgage. You work with wood, so house hold Joinery is a great business to get into - and there is work for that; local Joiners or even housing contractors is the way forward.
Or you could do a full u-turn career wise, learing an industrial trade? I mean, im a rig spark - the work is good, always availability - only down side is 2weeks on a damned rig with maybe 1 or 2 ugly chicks on board. (oh and about 100 dudes) and even then... hitting on the ugly munters will get you done for sexual harrassment at the workplace...

so its Rosey Palmer and her five sisters for a fortnight..

-Illusionist-
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