Ill try get thru this quick as poss

sooo...........
I been workin at ma office for about 4 years, and still havent plucked up the courage to ask out a girl/number close a girl who works in a different department for almost 3 yrs. Yes im a looser lol Ive been in the should i ? shouldnt i state for sooooo long!! arghhhhhhhh

Now she work on the same floor close to my desk so i see her everyday, shes just not in the same department so theres no real valid reason for me to go over....
I dont know if she single or not, we dont ever have same breaks ect and If i do say anything shell know am just tryin to hit on her.

I know this is a bit different to club or street game, and proberly not even a good idea esp as we work in the same building nevermind on the same floor....but how could i go about an approach? or to even break the ice, im sick of just blank glances when our eyes meet. She prob thinks am a weirdo lol
Should i just let it be (?
What can i say or do ?

Plzzzzz help me

Thanks Cal

You shouldn't go for it because dating co-workers probably isn't the best. Sure its tempting but you have to keep in mind the awkwardness if things end badly.

I hear Law suit knocking.

Unless you sexually harass her until she quits and then you can make your move.



No seriously, tough break player. You win some and you lose some. I mean do not ever focus all your attention on one potential (I mean 4 years and you do not know whether she has a partner?). Move on, work is not great as it will get out, and it would make things very complicated if it did not work out.

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I say go for it. . . balls to the wall. Life's too short anyway, anything that goes wrong will usually end up okay in the end.

In the end, man remembers not what he shouldn't have done, but what he SHOULD have done, but didn't.

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hahahha

Thats like the ol Yin Yang advse from both of you lol
Now am back where i started lol

No seriously Thanks for replyin

Ama just go in there and lick her face

Workaholic: I hear the echo of that law suit knockin bro lol

To second Captn, I say just go for it man. Think about it this way, in 100 years you'll be dead, so what does it matter if it doesnt go how you want, at least you'll have tried, and you can then move on, and you never know, maybe she feels the exact same way about you? good luck

I am new to the game so feel free to argue my advice.

I am having similar anxieties over a gorgeous girl in my office, and we have had little more than polite 'good mornings' and smiles when passing.

I have resolved to approach her and attempt to build rapport. By this I mean nothing more than having a pleasant conversation and give her the impression that I am good company.

To do this I am going to have to shift gear and approach her as if I have never seen her before and remove the idea that I am only talking to her because of how she looks. I have a few ideas for this, but I will likely end up making it up as I go along because if I spend too much time on this site in the office I'll probably get fired!

The ONLY aim here is to build attraction and rapport, and by attraction I do not mean anything sexual, just that she enjoys my company.
The difference (for me) between picking up a girl in the office and picking up a girl in a club, is that I will wait for several big obvious Indicators of Interest from a girl in the office before shifting gear into sexual territory, whereas I will wait for three or less from a girl in a club.

Let me know what you guys think, even if I am talking nonsense it is all something we can learn from.

seriously. . . its not this hard, who says you have to have more then two IoIs when doing stuff? Day game is SOOO much easier then nightgame, you should be allowing LESS IoIs. . . Today, reading this I want you simply get up from chair and walk over, and ask her. . . "So, hows your week going so far?" and let it go from there, talk about anything you want to, this is an amazingly beautiful woman that you can share company with for five minutes. . . so talk about something interesting. . . when you feel that you are starting to get looks from the other people in the office say that "Well, I'm afraid if I hang out here too much longer, [boss name here] wont let me see you again. . . why don't I get your contact info, and we can setup something later this week." BING BANG BOOM. Number close. Think of her as another guy around the office, not the amazingly beautiful woman. This will help with approach anxiety.

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Hi,
just read your post.

I am like this and it is just putting things off, and before you know it, it becomes a habit.

The way i see it, it would be great for you to know if it is on or not. As you are, it is just an unhealthy obsession that is going nowhere and the longer you levave it, the more impossible it becomes.

Approaching is safe, so if you get a bit if approach anxiety, remind yourself that your mate, Mr E, has been approachng for the last six months and just the other day it dawned on me "approaching is safe" I mean i get major anxiety but really it is so unecessary cos like i say, in 6 months i have had no problem whatsoever.
surely the same thing will hapen to you- in spite of how I feel, I know that approaching is as safe as sex with a condom.(well. you know what I mean)

so your love life is on standby because of this office hottie.

maybe as you are leaving the building together, time it so you leave at the same time as her and approach- hey what floor do you work on?
basically dude, run any bullshit on her- get a conversation going and try to do it regularlg and sooner or later invite her to whatever.

don't make it so complicated.
if she is interested in you too, then it will be just a formality the time and place.

but mate, make sure that she doesn't have anything to do with your dept because as others have wisely said, if it doesn't happen, you are going to feel awkward at work for a while unecessarily and there are so many hotties out there. approach dude!!!

I thought I'd reply back before you loose your job.

Direct Approach:

Calrox: Walk over and say Hi I'm Calrox, I work in xxx dept. I have seen you here but never really known what you do. Who do you report to.

Girl: Blah blah blah

Calrox: ready to leave Oh great, I'd like to know a lil more about your dept, I'm trying to explore opportunities and get some more idea about how different divisions fit into the entier puzzle. Thanks

^^^ When said with confidence and non creepy way you would be good (Field Tested, so believe me) This is an ice breaker


Option 2:

Time yourself with what time she leaves or takes a coffee break and try to run into her in the break area. And open wiith a big ass smile and a 'Hi'. dont expect to chat. just a quick hello. and get doing your normal stuff.

You are in a what I'd call closed community and would run into one another everyday so dont rush.

Grow some balls and talk to her.

Sorry if I am hi-jacking the topic a little, but I really wanted to share this.

I approached my office hottie today (I imagined her having a penis, worked great for initial AA).

She was in the kitchen area, I was heading that way to make a bowl of cereal. She had been off ill the past few days so I decided to ask her how she was feeling and maybe make a few pig flu jokes.

I was concerntrating so hard on the conversation and my body language (I'm not very neurotic and she doesn't matter that much to me, but I am going out to a club tonight and was using this as practice).

So anyway because I was focusing so hard I picked up the cereal box on some weird way, held it up-side-down and poured it everywhere. Fantastic.
I laughed with her about it then realised there was no milk, so I had a genuine time contraint that I had to go to the shop and buy more.

It was a lovely little light hearted start to the morning

Don't think just do. Walk up to her as if she has been your best friend for ages.

Don't think about body language, don't think about what to talk about, don't let your mind control your emotions. Stop living in the what if and live in the now!


There are tons of german exchange students that i work with and lots of very attractive woman from Hr, ordering ect.. I always make strong eye contact and smile say hi or whaever thought pops in my head. I'm not trying to get them all in bed just making friends and being very friendly socialble at work.

One of the ladies I work with is the "talk of the lab" ever knows who she is but is scared to talk to her. I noticed her once day, looked her in the eyes the entire time we approached each other and turn my head allil to keep eye contact as she followed iwth a very friendly smile. She followed my eyes as she passed walking and walked right into a glass door cuz she was watching me more than where she was going.


I've noticed all the guys are scared to say hi or approached the good looking woman at work so they never had gys talking to them really other than the wierdo gawking eyes waondering dudes that wierd them out. Be the guy they love to see and talk to in the halls or go eat lunch with and not feel like there getting mind fucked by the guy.

You work in HR don't you player?

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