The mind state i have found best going out with is that 'i am attractive, interesting if a woman doesnt take that , then its her loss and i coulnd give a shiit'. its arogant, and other things but it works believe me. here are some tips;
Constantly tell yourself how attractive you are...
Any woman would be blown away by you and likely to get wet if you sat down and had a chat and they got to know you.
you MUST keep your self esteem up and this will not just boost you inner confidence , but it does this physically too. For example, imagine you just beat the crap out of mike tyson, the next day your head would naturally stand tall because you know that you are the stronger of the pack and fear nothing. it may be a seperate scenario but it applies to the game.
its the same feeling when you lose your virginity, you feel great! you feel above the rest, but its just something i like to call the inner ego boost.
REMEMBER, you are attractive, interesting and any woman would be dumb to reject you! the mind is a natural source of confidence. You can change your body language and stuff, but to really glow with confidence it must be from your self - knowing how amzing and damn sexy you are.

S

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thats a realy good post! i can understand it and take it in - keep them coming cus this forums realy empty!!!
im going out tomorrow so will try it!

newgame

There's just another trick I saw on television. It was part of a self-confidence-training for models.
Just go out in the city, wearing huge black sunglasses und start shouting "whaaaa" (not panickly, but angry) in the middle of all passengers.
This trick can be combined with Sterlz'. Later on, you can say "Hey man, I'm the one who dared screaming in the middle of the city! What do I have to fear??"
If you want to know what the glasses are for: It's emberassing if your target greets you with "hey, you're the freak who shouted arround in the city!!"

Hope this one helps

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These are both really good posts, personally I go with sterlz on this 1 it is amazing how many more women will actually approach you if you are confident. If you all think you will have had moments were women approached you in clubs 1 week and stayed clear the next. The reason for this is CONFIDENCE you probably had a great day at work or had a promotion then went out to celebrate and because you were so happy and full of yourself women automatically picked up on this. If you replicate this aura of confidence and success every time you go out it WILL keep happening.

Regards
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You guys are right of course. When you feel confident you radiate confidence and women know that. They love it. The trick is not to seek their approval like so many AFC's do, but be arrogant in a funny way....The best attitude is the "I just don't give a fuck" attitude. Do NOT be afraid of rejection. Their loss, not yours!

This weekend I want to try the following: I am going to paint my fingernails black (just like Mystery) and I'm going to this club that is huge. It easily holds 2000 people. At least half of them women....Of the 1000 guys in there, how many do you think will have fingernails painted black?
Right......!
Here's my theory.....the guys will think I'm a freak or gay but will be apprehensive to ask me why I have black fingernails....The women will love it cuz I'll be unique. They will probably comment on it, or at least talk among themselves about it. (It's actually the peacock theory)
If a girl comes up to me and ask me about my fingernails, all I will say is:
How many guys have you seen tonite that have painted nails?
Her answer will be: None.....
MY answer will be: Well, what does that tell ya....?

By the way...do you guys sarge alone or with a wing? I usually sarge alone.....

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Smoke

Sounds like a nice solid opener Smoke let me know if the nails thing works. My favourite prop without a doubt is a pair of sunglasses I carry them everywhere. The reason behind this is every guy in the room will instantly think your just some pratt who thinks he looks cool and every woman will want to know why your wearing sunglasses inside (I have never gone more than about 30 minutes without a question about my shades). Quck note if your going to try shades as a prop do not do what I did the 1st time I tried it and told the 1st woman that I was wearing them so that I wasnt dazzled by her beauty (surprisinly this didnt work at all).
Sorry back to the point, my shades are also my greatest tool for disarming any AMOG with a group of 8+ ladies. When you approach the group almost every AMOG will without a doubt try to show off and make you look stupid and inferior to him and comment on the shades, which of course are prescription and essential to your continued good eyesight. I have practiced this line lots and it is absolute gold to get rid of an aggressive guy usually he starts to treat you as though your best friends buying drinks to make up for his earlier insult. (remember though you have to leave the glasses on constantly for this to be believable). This next bit can help get over the LMR. At the crucial moment of rejection take off the shades and tell her that if her body is the last thing you see it will be worth it (only try this if you are VERY confident otherwise it will come out like the worst one liner in history).
Be prepared though I have been laughed at more than once using this line but if you cant think of anything else to stop her putting her clothes back on and leaving you aint got nothing to lose.

Regards
Stag


At the moment Smoke I have a friend that comes down most weekends (he's in the army) but he is getting married and moving to Germany so at the moment I am going out odd nights on my own till I can convince one of my friends to overcome his fear and give it a go.

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A thing I do, which has helped me somewhat to overcome my fear of embarassment: Playing air guitar.

I am a metalhead, and when outside I usually walk around listening to metal on my minidiscman with headphones. Playing air guitar and banging your head is fun, and it can be fun to do in public as well. At first, it felt weird and embarassing, but I kept doing it, and now I do it as a matter of course, on the train or in the street. It's especially funny when there's a school class of little kids sitting nearby on the train.

It's not a big thing, but it's an example of a confidence exercise.

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i have the most awesome balaclava that i sewed a chicken beak and brush onto. Now whenever i need a confidence boost i wear it into town. most peoples immediate reaction is to burst out laughing, or stare at me untill i go out of sight.

First time i did it i felt so self conscious it was horrible. Then i did it again and again untill now i can wear it into town and enjoy the attention and of course when i go into town without it i dont have a problem at all.

check it out:

http://tinyurl.com/kq6f7

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Haha! Awesome! You go, dude!

NP: Nocturnal Rites - Vengeance

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What I did for confidence boosting was performing magic tricks to random people. I learned a few simple but impressive ones and just walked around with my deck of cards. It's not something that is extremely bold (like Diablos' mask hahaha -- thats great) but will get you meeting new people and engaging in small talk. I liked this one starting out because it was slightly more subtle, but was IMO, good for my confidence.

I mean, the end result is what we really want here, so doing anything that takes you out of your comfort zone for an extended period of time will make you more confident.

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This is a good little trick for people like me who dont really want to carry loads of props with them when they go out, I use it in clubs usually to win drinks from HB's or cocky AMOGS.
All you need is a card and a coin, balance the card on the tip of your finger and place the coin on top but make sure the coin is balanced perfectly on the middle of your finger, the trick is to get the card out from under the coin without moving the coin I usually give them 3 attempts at it to be fair. if your in a bar doing it on people who have had a drink you will never lose, I learnt to do this with about a half hours worth of prcatice but to do it everytime 1st go will take a bit longer. Okay the trick to getting the card out is to flick the corner or edge of the card as hard as you can in a sweeping up and away motion this takes practice but I found it a lot easier than learning a complicated magic trick, le tme know if you start to use this successfully.

Stag

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Here's a little tip I use everytime I go out. It actually works anywhere you go, but he it is: Whenever you walk into a room, SMILE!! That's it. I dont care if it's work, home, school, the grocery store, the mall, the club, etc., just smile. It's amazing how confident you can appear if you look like your always in a good mood. Also, another tip I like to tell friends who are nervous around women is this: On any given day, say hi to 6 random women you see or pass by. It's a great tool. Even if she ignores you, yells at you, gives you a dirty look, it's a great way to learn not to care about a woman's inital opinion. And when things aren't going to hot when you're out sarging, it can be a way to keep you motivated to stay in the game.

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I few good things that I have done to boost my confidence. First was to read the book called the confidence course by Walter Anderson, and second was to actually perform self hypnosis on myself. I know this sounds nuts but it works. I actually bought a self hypnosis book as well as an online recording that puts you in a state of hypnosis and helps relieve anxiety and fears of approaching women.

I've been talking about the Stylelife Challenge in several of my posts already, and one of the early assignments came with a audio that would help you boost your confidence and learn a PUA mindset.

The link is dead now but if you go to stylelife.com and ask around some people will have had it downloaded to their computers.

I'll send the file to anyone who wants it, but only the first few who ask will get it.

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it would appear, the recommendations to this question can be classified into two groups. the first one recommends repeating mantras, which can be very helpful if you`re starting off a low base, although what it omits is that a man need always remember that he IS the ultimate judge and therefore has a number of rights as such (the right to say no, the right to change his mind, the right to not give explanations or apologise for his choices, as well as the right to make mistakes and be responsible for them).
the second group advocates confronting one`s fears, which, in my view will solidify what the latter have to say. the only helpful way, to me, is the put oneself into a situation from which there is no escape (like putting on a feather dress with a strapped dildo around the neck in a public place) and from then on proceed to expunge all the nasty bits of foreign knowledge that had been drummed into our heads and causes all the anxiety to begin with - that we have to do things to be liked, that what others say or think is important to us etc. utter non-sense.
why is being approved of by complete strangers so bloody important?

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