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PostPosted: Tue Apr 21, 2009 11:48 pm 
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hey guys,

i have a problem whenever i start to talk with a girl i just get blank... just the conversation will be very short like (hi, how are you ??) and then it stops there.... even when i talk to a girl on msn not only in real this will happen to me :S

any suggestions which can help me how to start a conversation which will be longer and to avoid shyness too ...

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PostPosted: Wed Apr 22, 2009 2:34 am 
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It is actually FAR MORE IMPORTANT to talk about whatever topic you're talking about in the RIGHT WAY.

In other words, if you don't understand HOW to carry on a conversation that creates ATTRACTION, then it really won't matter WHAT you talk about...

because the woman you're talking to won't FEEL anything towards you.

The HOW of conversation i'am talking about are:
- Your body language
- Eye contact
- The Cocky & Funny style of communicating
- Flirting
- Sending mixed messages
- Directing the conversation
- Dealing with common questions and topics

My point is that if you're running into a lot of "uncomfortable silences", nervousness, and other usual challenges, then you probably need to get the HOW handled before the WHAT

To answer your question talk to her about current events famous people and their drama make it funny and psychoanalyze em bring her into the convo by asking her opinion. what she does for fun, future plans like vacations, friends and family.

Good Luck Bro,

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PostPosted: Wed Apr 22, 2009 3:35 am 
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hey guys,

i have a problem whenever i start to talk with a girl i just get blank... just the conversation will be very short like (hi, how are you ??) and then it stops there.... even when i talk to a girl on msn not only in real this will happen to me :S

any suggestions which can help me how to start a conversation which will be longer and to avoid shyness too ...

thanks
i dont want to be offensive, but do you have an interesting life? im sure you have to do or know about SOMETHING fun and entertaining. you can talk about anything... ANYTHING to a chick, its just how you go about it.

it seems like you are really new to the PUA community and havent done enough reading yet. go start reading the stickys on this forum and learn about different techniques and routines. if you havent yet, id recommend reading 'the game' by neil strauss. that will help you tremendously with understanding of the community and how pick up works.


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PostPosted: Wed Apr 22, 2009 1:08 pm 
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hey thanks guys,,
can you please give me the link to read 'the game' by neil strauss cause i can't find it :S

thanks


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PostPosted: Wed Apr 22, 2009 4:52 pm 
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im fairly certain theres a webcopy of it somewhere, but i bought mine at barns and noble for like 25$


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PostPosted: Sat Apr 25, 2009 7:47 am 
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I love Carismas idea. Call a random in the phone book and time yourself to see how long you can keep them on the phone. This is an easy way to hone your conversational skills.

The key to this, I think is to not have any plan until they've picked up the phone. Forcing yourself to think on your feet and live in that moment.

LoveJunkie,


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PostPosted: Sun Apr 26, 2009 1:55 pm 
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i just want to know how to start a conversation with woman and keep talking with her ... thats my problem .. :s

does the place make any difference ?? for example start talking to a woman in club is different than talking to woman at school ... ??

another problem that i'm facing at the moment is that i made a friend with a girl from another country on msn who she is coming to my country about 2 days more and she wants to meet to a night club and i feel very nervous and shy in these situations since last year i had a similar experience which the first date went good and i kissed her too but when we met again i felt rejected :S and now i'm afraid that will happen again ...

any tips how to start a conversation, to fight against to be nervous and shy, and should i have to meet this foreign girl ??

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