Right guys let me start of by saying before today i had major AA problems and today has changed my life

so lets begin how i changed from being a shy guy to a guy who is fun.

I’ve been reading loads of PUA stuff for months now and before today, if i managed to open i did epic because i know routines, i know the steps and am naturally a cocky guy who says the right thing at the right time. However these chances rarely occurred...why because i had approach anxiety.

So like I said I’ve overcome this today.

I work in a pub as a kitchen chef but the bar got hammered today and was running out of stock, so they asked me a favour, to run to the shop to buy some lemonade. I went out and bought some, the member of staff who served me in the local shop was a HB8 and i was very shy, the only words i said was "hi" and can i have the receipt please. Once I got the lemonade i went back to my work and i got the sentence "You got diet, not normal you plonker, go back and get the right stuff".

So i was like shit, i had butterflies in my stomach and was thinking this HB8 is going to think im a dumbass.

I went back to the shop, waited in the 10 man queue to be served. Once it became my turn to be served i went up and told the girl "Yo I bought the wrong lemonade, can you be sweet and save my ass and swap this lemonade for normal lemonade" She laughed and went ye sure can i have your receipt please so i can refund you..I was like "ye here you go love"..

Now the machine which was doing the refund was really slow..So I thought there’s a good vibe here I might as well use an opinion opener when I’m waiting..so I said "Me and my boss were having this discussion before..and it could change the course of my life...do you floss before or after you brush your teeth" she said "after and why were you talking about that it’s a bit random" and I replied "because we try to act like we are working but we generally just walk around chatting to each other" again she laughed...

Once the machine had finished my refund and she got my lemonade..I said have a good day and walked out the shop.

For the rest of the day I was walking around the pub in my breaks opening sets. It was great and every time I approached I had the mindset "I’ve bought something wrong, I need a refund - I want better"

SO WHAT DOES THIS MEAN !!!

Well I’ve realised there is no difference between getting a refund and approaching women. For example if you bought a new computer and it was broke, you would take it back to the shop and ask for it to be swapped or fixed.

Now for this to happen you are going to have to communicate and of course when you approach women, you are going to have to communicate.

So if you have approach anxiety, next time you go out. Think of a time when you had to take something back to the shop and think the situations are the same, you want something so you’re going to have to communicate.

AWSOME

its amazing that it just takes that "Ah-ha" moment and then everything kinda clicks into place.

It's funny when you get to the other side of it.. how silly AA looks once your past it...

i mean it will still creap its ugly head from time to time... but at least for me wont be that crippling fear like it used to be.

GREAT to see that.

Lucky

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150 people are killed every year by Falling Coconuts.... 10 by Shark Attack.

I couldn't find any stats on death from approaching a woman.

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fealinlucky said it in a TD sense of way , and I will add something - when you really hit state, try not to use routines - it is great fun to actually think of what you say, not just repeating some old scripts over & over, you know .

Ya dude thats some good shit. That mindset definitly would make me quick on my feet

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"Thoughts lead on to purposes; purposes go forth in action; actions form habits; habits decide character; and character fixes our destiny."