How to beat my sticking points...



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PostPosted: Sat Mar 07, 2009 7:08 am 
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Hey guys, been reading the FR's and stuff on here and want to get better.

I've become a lot more confident in approaching in the last few weeks since I did the free rsd workshop - before that all I could do is say 'hey, hows your night going?' which was lame cos it didn't have any energy behind it. Now if I'm in a night environment like bar/club I can generally go up to a girl and say hi, I had to come and tell you that you look really cute tonight, I'm x' although I should change this when she's with friends maybe 'you looks are cute, I'm x'. And I can be more energetic and more comfortable approaching.

A) My day game is worse since I did the workshop, I figured out some standard openers as above that I can use for night game, but what are standard openers for day game? I got a girls number last night cos I asked what band was playing (in a free street stage) so that was cool.

And I've noticed that my number closing game is good, 80% of my responses are that they are partnered, 15% yes and 5% no. I've never been viciously rejected, I think the worst I've had is 'why' when I ask how their night is going or they answer me then turn away. I also use 'hey, I can only try right' when they reject me and I usually get positive feedback off that, like they'll tell me they're flattered etc.

But, here are my sticking points:

1. Day game - as above, I really need 1 or 2 standard openers (I feel weird asking about their day if they're working, and the only other thing I have is asking what they're up to later in the night)
2. Dancefloor game - I had some retard the other night trying to convince me that you just go up behind some girl that hasn't even seen you and start grinding on her. I have enough female friends to know that shit doesn't work. Last night some chick came up and took a photo with me then left - wtf? Was I supposed to do something? I wasn't in the right headspace anyway. But yeah I generally rely on conversation which you can't use on a dancefloor.
3. Escalation - I majorly suck at making a move, the same idiot from the last night was harassing this older drunk women to dance with me. She came within 10cm from my face and told me she was drunk and just wanted to dance. I could pretend I was dancing with her to please that guy. Obviously she was way older than me however if it had been a hot younger girl I probably wouldn't have gone for a kiss or anything. I need some advice to learn how to go for a makeout. Like about 2 weeks back was dancing and singing with this girl and lots of holding hands and hugging, she came very close to my face a few times but I didn't make a move. She ended up kissing me later in the night.

I'm definitely proud of where I've gotten to but want to improve my game even further. I sometimes have random chicks coming up to me and doing random shit but I don't know what to do about that. Like last night this drunk chick comes up and starts going on about my spiked hair and whether she could do the same with hers - she had ass length hair. She was pulling my hair and I mean pulling, it was starting to get a bit uncomfortable lol and she's laughing, saying 'its soo funny' then she wandered off to a group of people haha. I've had that happen before and I tried to say something but she was already walking away.

Thoughts, comments and suggestions are very welcome :)


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