I lost AA in a different way than most of the people who've shared their successes here.
MOST of them just say "You have nothing to lose." and simple motivational lines going through their heads.
The fact that they pushed themselves to get rid of their fears is great.. but we can't really trust them unless we get an explanation of why we have anxiety now and how it disappears.

Once you get past AA, you start to realize things about society.
You realize that people are very similar. They all have the same emotions inside them and will all react similarly to the same situations, unless they're mentally handicapped.
You realize that there's always a connection between people whether it be good or bad. There's a dominating mutual feeling.
Rapport.
You need to realize that people are just like you. They're not people who want to reject others and make them feel like shit. They don't want to live with the guilt of having put someone down. They're at the damn club to have fun. Don't you want to have fun when you goto a club? (yes.)
Boom. You already have something in common. And then you realize that person also deals with the drama and problems just like you. You moan about how you're loveless as where a woman maybe moaning about how she has to find a well paying job soon. I could go on forever, but I think you know that everyone as people share commonalities.
You establish rapport(Comfort) by feeling more of a "one-ness" to something. The more rapport you have, the less anxiety (uncomfortable feeling) you get.

Now you have this concept, the only thing you have to work on is... "I'm just like other people."
Don't focus on negative statements like "I'm not a loser. I'm not an outcast. I'm not womanless." Focus on positives lie "I'm going to get laid, I'm just like other people."

After you complete this process, go sarging.
I hope you don't miss Mr. AA too badly ;]

Grape

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good call man.

it really is true. a lot people are thrilled when you approach them and gain respect for you because you got past the things tieing us together that we all despise: bullshit, social stigmas, and mental barriers.

people just want to connect with others so make it easy for them. make somebody feel good.

exactly dude =]

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Total %100 truth.

It worked for me. and i use to be really shy. You feel good after, and they have respect for you. I never got a negative comment back.

Step up to the plate and KNOW you'll be sucessful

Something that helped me initially engage in conversation with strangers was to listen to rocky music. It pumped me up, and i just thought, i'm never going to see this person again, and i have to do it, so eventually i convinced myself to do it, and then did it. Its entirely a matter of overcoming a physical and mental blockade. Just like its difficult to do 30 pullups, its difficult to go up to a stranger and start talking to him or her. Thankfully, the more you do it, the easier it gets, just like the more you do pullups, the better you become at doing them.

Your right, I am gonna get laid

Just a matter of when......