Hi,

I find myself often excluded from convo's beeing held in any social situation. Mostly this is due to I have nothing to say about the topic, absolutely nothing comes to mind. Or they talk about a common thread they share and I don't.

How do I engage in a convos like that, or how do I steer a convo to something I can participate in?

I've seen convo's just jump from one topic to another at random (or to me it seems so). How did that happen?

I have an outgoing life, not as much as before. But each night I go out, I find myself distant about many topics raised in convo among friends. Most poeple think I'm shy, withdrawn. But some people noted that I come over really confident, pulled together when I talk about something that interests me. How do I give the same impression when the convo is about stuff that doesn't interest me at all, where I have no experience with or I just have no opinion over?

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What I would do is simply diversify myself, try new things experiment, watch a new sport, listen to new music. You may actually end up liking this stuff. Also you can pretty much catch a point in any conversation that will spark a story that you can tell.

Oh my god! You reminded me of my old self.

Anyhow, it's like a matrix. You cant see what's behind it, you can only see what's shown too you. You can in this case only see what's being said, and nothing more. I began reading some conversational skills in the begining, and I still didn't get wtf was going on. I was too focused on the exchange of information, rather than talking for the sake of entertainment.

I want you to understand that this requires training. Remember that.

Next, I want you to dedicate you to experiancing new shit. Do whatever. Buy caffeine pills and play Crysis for 24 hours straight. Try and see how much alcohol you can get into that system. The goal is to make your life dynamic, changing and intresting.

Now, you have things to talk about. "How long have you been awake, w/o sleep?" and then do your story.

You will also need to read the newspaper. Internet-papers are also good. Browse wikipedia about favourite topic. Got geek-friends? Check out some supercomputers and shit. Now you got something to talk about.

Be curious! Ask! "Wtf is this X and Y?" then you can discuss.

Start an argument. What do you think about feminism?
You will need to be able to form opinions on the fly. I don't have any problems writing/discussing etc without thinking first.. I do it as I go along.

"Random" conversations can be hard to jump into. Why don't you just change the direction of it? Say something wired, fun, whatever. If you need some original content, go to 4chan.org, then into board "Random". Will take 2 hours to get to know wtf going on, since most of it is inside-jokes.

Hope I was to some help.

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