| An introduction to the art of open approaching.
It has often been said of my nature that my honesty & openness is disarming. It has had to be. My life is an uncommon one, just like yours. The path I have walked has shaped me just as I shaped the path. However, self worth is not the creation of our past, but the creator of our future. Harlequin-Jitsu is the name I give to the multifaceted art of showing one's true colours in all situations. And being able to reveal any side of your majestic self that you see fit for purpose. This is influenced by my time with Bujinkan. An art form which saved my life in 2006.
First a little intro for those that don't have the misfortune of knowing me: One of the meanings of the word harlequin is many coloured. I say that beliefs are like stained glass windows, many facets & a sight to behold, but it is the light on the other side of the window that allows them to shine. Because all acts are acts of self definition. And all actions are based on what we believe. Some acts are not done by us as we would like & this is often due to limiting self beliefs. People sometimes spend so long looking out from within, that they forgo the within & go without. Some people will even take on ancient beliefs which continue to preach a culture of separation from one another, perpetuate the idea that violence is acceptable & most alarmingly, people will take on these beliefs without question. People spend more time choosing a house than choosing a religion or even a partner. I will give no time to any religion which separates. The only bind that concerns me is one that unites us. In this sense we are the light to each other & enlightenment is what this place is all about.
Belief & enlightenment will be a recurring theme in my writing just as Palatino Linotype font (' *,) Face to face I will listen to you endlessly. On a forum I will write the kind of posts that make people go "OMGWTFBBQ wall of text!"
So, thanks for being here. Thank you for reading this. My product is free. Share it with anyone. Just remember the source of everything. The source is you & the majestic self within you. It will always be you.
So, my first post in the approach section. So much to say so much to write. So much ADD among the congregation. So much skim reading. Take your time.
The only time is now. And here I want to address a certain dynamic of the approach & share with you something that has been very useful to me. In battle the best outcome is to reach a positive outcome without ever lifting a sword. There is no battle between us & definitely non between men & women. Hold that belief. Life will reciprocate your beliefs of it.
Kara-ku-jitsu (the art of empty void) is the art of no attachment to outcome, no agenda. This is harmlessness is the reason this is disarming.
It's also about forcing no opinion. In turn allowing anyone in your presence to form their own from the moment they perceive you. Never will I talk of cold approaching. Only warm approaching.
Unclear disarmament? I won't be bringing you bombshells here: what you are about to read you know already. You know it by experience. You know it by intuition, by the subconsious databank of all that you have lived, witnessed & participated in, you know this. All I may do is re-mind you that you know it. Because many have forgotten what they know in the community. It seems learning new things has been a clever way for people to avoid applying what they know already.
What is this being disarming? This opening & being open?
Breaking unseen barriers & unlocking hearts, broken or not. There's both nothing to it & everything to it.
I'm going to answer this with two versions, the short version & a more detailed longer exemplar that some people may choose to skim read.
My interpretation of disarming in this context comes from two elements:
The first being, giving no reason at any time for anyone to be 'armed' in the first place, which I can best describe as not SPAM or indeed having an agenda or any apparent ulterior motive during an interaction.
The second is possessing the trait of harmlessness which although halfway conveyed above, can be better demonstrated through persistent honesty, perpetual authenticity, openness, awareness & response-ability. All of which are woven together with integrity exuded through evidencing these traits with the three tools of creation: thoughts, words & action. The point at which we decide to trust people is usually when there is no evidence detected that we are untrustworthy & we have enough reinforcement of trust through evidence such as recommendation from people we already trust & trust us in return.
True trust in relationships need never be spoken of. Just as there would be no concept of marriage if humans as a species naturally pair-bonded for life. (Soporno will tell you all about this. He is an evil genius.) If you ever say "trust me" in front of Johnny he'll kindly request that you do not swear.
So, from this recommendation from mutual trust between known associates along with our own background checking will allow us to choose to accept the truth of a complete stranger. Along with the notation of perceived status values, such as finding out someone is a Doctor, a teacher or any one who doesn't work in politics. (' *,) We can choose to further take for certain people who know very little about. We lower our shields to this person we choose to trust. More accurately, we deign to not put them up in the first place.
When someone is already in a position of trust by the masses, many would automatically choose to conform with the flow & decide that they must be worth trusting.
Let's bring the most beautiful of creations into context here: the perfection that is woman.
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Originally Posted by Corey#8
"I've heard in some schools that being intimidating is bad (for obvious reasons) and in other schools I've heard that being intimidating is good because apparently "fear" is a part of a girl's attraction."
This is why self education is so valuable. Whatever the schools say, get out there & put it to the test. Abandon all fear. Embrace & embody love. Control via fear versus working toward a shared goal because of love. There is no power struggle between man & woman. You only perceive that there is one. Lay down your arms & get laid.
Whether it's approach anxiety (first minute resistance) or the fear of the unknown. All fear is fear of death & that is not to be feared. Despite being an avatar I believe in life before death. Some fear is very useful. Positive for us. Fight or flight. A survival tool.
But fear that you have created, this fear is entirely dependent on you believing it. Please reap this & eat of it. This is man-food. All the beliefs you hold define you. You are the reap-eaters: & these ideas based on the past will serve you when you make them yours. Upgrade from perversion 1.0. This is the game 2.0. Abandon fear abandon beta.
Some people will be intimidated when you offer to gift them your value without condition. Some people will even fear you for offering your time & your help. They may suspect you. They may have allowed someone into their life before that eneded up hurting them, playing them, utilizing them like a pawn in chess.
Some guys have gone before us to some of the women that we adore & some of these guys have fucked women over. You will communicate without words that you are not this man. Most communication between us physically is entirely non-verbal. Johnny will sometimes verbalize this however. (' *,) "I will never fuck you over... but I will fuck you over & over." I invite you not to imitate this but to emulate. Internalize it & communicate your truth in your own way... So with the approach I invite you to forgive immediately any hostility toward from anyone else until you have remembered that.
You approach anyone, a girl for the sake of this forum & she will form beliefs about you that are fresh yet also, they carry the former belief of the men she met before you. How much of a shield she throws up in your face depends on this prior experience & how she has let people into her life in the past.
Caution is the right of all that have known pain.
You avoid this pain, you avoid this vacuum. You accept that pain is a part of someone's life but it has no bearing on you. You are the absolute opposite of pain, pleasure, for the one you share your time with. Pure energy & this energy you will give & receive in abundance & some with abandon.
And that's fine.
S . E . X = Synergistic Energy Xchange.
Say it with me.
Synergistic Energy Xchange.
We're having sex right now. I'm giving you energy. You're using energy to read this. So you're having s.e.x with me right now. Not all of you can deal with that. (' *,)
Anyway, (sorry) back to this instant trust. The non gratuitous honesty that checks out with a person's background can alone be enough to have someone trust them. A disarming person is one that comes to you not seeking to gain from you, but seeking to give to you... it is disarming because it is still rare in western society. A teacher gives knowledge. A Doctor gives healing. A harlequin gives a horrifically long winded answer to a simple question... if you haven't guessed by now, all that was the short version. The long version is the Kara-Ku jitsu: Exemplar, which I will also post here just in case you funkers are in the mood for another wall of text.
Some of you may equate disarming with benign or friendly. And these two things may have caused you to be trapped in the friend zone as Chris Rock says, or LJBFd.
Disarming does not mean benign. Being disarming is anything but unreactive. What you get is a series of subtle reactions which are advantageous & recommended to all lovers, pirates, ninjas (harlequins for future reference are all three)
(' *,) _________________ When you refuse to accept what you cannot change: this is called trauma.
When you decide to change what you cannot accept: this is called revolution.
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