hey guys, brand new here with a problem that I know many ppl have and a problem many people have overcome.

Ill try to keep this as short as possible but basically I have some social anxiety problems in general. I dont like talking on the phone, I get nervous whenever I am introduced to someone, trying to keep a convo going with someone.

I think my problem comes from me being self centered. I was the youngest of 3 relatives so I grew up in an enviorment with alot of focus always revolving around me and Its what has helped me developing a problem. I dont know what the definition is for it but basically I am always worried how people think of me in social interactions, such as when Im talking to women I always worry how I am acting, what I am saying because I am so worried about how they think of me.

It is something stupid because I know in reality that most people are too concerned about themselves for me to even worry how people think of me during first interactions. Even though I know this, its like I turn into a different person bc Im so worried how people view me.

This also leads to my problem with having confidence because I always think that people view me in a negative way due to my problem with how people view me. I have 0 confidence as it is and dont really know how to appear to be confident with out seeming like a huge dick bc I am usually sarcastic with the things I have to say. (its tough for people to pick up on too).

So heres what I ask yall to anyone with problems or had problems similar to mine. How did you overcome it, whatd you do? etc, you get

thanks.

I'm still struggling with this as well. There was a group of people I hung out with in high school, but never really became close to them, mainly because I was to worried about what they thought of me (I wasn't being myself).

I've made huge progress however. Every time I try to act differently because I'm worried about what people think, I need to tell myself to act like myself. I have to say "fuck it" every time I get worried; after all they don't really notice half the things I do or don't do.

As I said, I'm still a work in progress so I'd like to see what others have done as well.