i'll put down the bullet points first, then tell the story. cuz most pple'd just ignore a not so short post LOL

to NOT be shy:
1. just freaking be urself (be like wut u'd do or say to an ugly girl when u see 1 lol)
2. never remain silent for too long. speak up, make the conversation. the easiest pick-up line for americans out there'd probably be (YO, have u watched american idol last nite? i totally forgot! i wanna know who got eliminated or shit like that)
3. Eye contact. Doesn't matter if she caught u looking at her boobs or wutever part of her body, just move ur eyes back to her eyes n say wo, ur jeans or top looks nice blablabla.
4. when u know wut she does as a student or worker, compliment on her status, say nice things abt wutever she's involved in.
5. never forget to compliment her outfit AGAIN LOL. n lead to how u think she looks or u have a fling of her smile or whatnot.



my story goes from here:

i was throwing out my resumes to several bank, n trying to apply to be a bank teller. As a customer service representative, u can't be shy. So i put my dressshirt/dresspants on, had good chat with one managers, and two other person who i gave the resume to. Before i'd be so shy, i'd probably just say: "do u know where i can drop off my resume?" then say thank u then leave. But i went in there like i was something, like it's my workplace already. i donno how to elaborate on this further = ='''

When i was depositting some bling to my other account, i chatted w/ this girl who's helping me behind the counter(she's not pretty, but i don't use to talk with pple like this before.) i got to know where she goes for school, wut year, n she started telling me how she thinks abt her job n bla bla bla. the point is, we interacted, and before, i wdn't even say hi to those persons = =

another thing is, when i used to go out with highschool frds(the ones im not too familiar with), i'd just sit there (if we go to a restaurant for tiny reunion or whatnot), and waiting for some1 to talk to me or just laugh when pple tell jokes. And leave without anything.
But just yesterday, i was so open, just be normal, n smile most of the time, talked a lot more, n offered pple some tea or passing stuff on the table. n when i stared at a female frd's boobs(i wasn't really checking out her body, cuz i don have interest in her, i was just checking out her sweater n wait on purpose for her to catch me eyeing her up) then i moved up to her eyes said:"where did u get the sweater? looks nice"
she was like: "oh i bought it somewhere, not brand or smth, do i look like a brand person bla bla bla." then i said:"but u got a D&G glasses on... that's gotta be smth." then she laughed and wutever. I'm just saying, before, i wouldn't bother to make conversation with girls, and just think they'd think im weird talking to them. Or when i look at them, they'd think im checking her out. But, everything now seems easier for me, cuz i act normal, just be myself, not to think too much = =....