Everytime i try to approach, my mind always go blank of all the right words to say. All my routines i forget too. Is there a way to overcome this?

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What sort of methods you trying to do?

I found that I was struggling to make my "routine" work at first. Have you thought of C&F (Is that ALL I say on here ).

That way, it can be a bit less routine based, and more quick wit. I have found that for me this lets the interaction flows.

It's not for everyone, but it could work, if you think you can pull it off.

this is why you prepare

It might sound a little lame, but I like to practice my brand new routines in front of the mirror. This way I not only practice what I'm going to say but also my body position, gestures, and facial expressions. The other plus is that you get a chance to practice your false time constraints as well as transitions between routines!

Of course this won't prepare you to think on your feet but it's a great way to overcome going blank.

this isn't an issue of forgetfullness, are you an old man? Probably not. It's a fear. There are many things you could let yourself fear before you approach. Going into all of those would take an entire post though, and there's already lots of stuff on these out there. What I would suggest is breaking the fear down, attack it from the inside as well as the outside. Inside being figuring out and letting go of the fear that's holding you back, and outside being putting in the effort and actually approaching.

One thing that helped me alot and still helps me is to not solely focus on meeting hot women. This makes them have more value than other people and puts them on a pedastal as if hot women are better to talk to than anyone else. Sure they may have nice boobs and an ass, but hot boobs and an ass won't be like the guy I met the other day that just happened to be a club owner. This provided for much more boob and ass potential, and just the fact that I'm meeting people besides hot chicks helps to alleviate all my fears of hot chicks by letting me know that they aren't all that. They are just people like everyone else, treat them as such and in a loving way and you will be respected as a man, and your boob and ass potential will increase exponentially.

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I used to have the same problem. It takes practice and practice. What I do is inside my head I visualize doing the approach with a routine in mind. You have to find out your own style though. Try expermenting with different openers, negs, C&F lines, etc.. etc.. until you've come up with a system that works for you. Try to open a set with a simple opener like, "Hey guys-I dont' have long to talk because I have to join my friends again. But I was wondering whether or not a tomatoe is a fruit or vegatable?"

I got that opener from someone on this forum. It works for him and I believe it'll wrk for you.

You can try this one: "Hey-I can't stay long but my friend and I was talking about which celeberity is the best actor: Tom Cruise or Brad Pit! Which one do you think is better?" I just came up with that.

Peace out bro and good luck. If you do forget your routines it's always good to rely on Situational opeers such as, 'Man, this weather sucks doesn't it?" or "This bar is so noisy it's lame as hell!" or "This club's music is boring, I wish they played better tunes!"

Tell me how your progress is!

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I agree with stealth that practice is an effective means of getting good at this, however I would not recommend using opinion openers if you really don't care about the answer.

Like honestly how many guys you think actually care about who lies more men or women? It's always better to use something from your life that way it is totally congruent with you. These are interesting. I think they would be even more effective if you lead it in a positive direction. Sometimes people don't want to think about negative things. My experience with opening with something negative is that girls are like whoaaaa I'm out to have fun, don't wanna go there.

Really people place too much value on the opener, no wonder guys get nervous about it. The opener doesn't matter all it does is lead the conversation where you want it to go and cause her to feel friendly towards you. What really matters are the qualities that you like about her that makes her cool enough to be part of your life.

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I totally understand what you mean, its weird there are some nights im out and i have no problem approaching but then there are some nights that my mind just goes blank. I made a cheat sheet the other night of some openers and stuff that i could use and whenever i went in the bathroom or outside to smoke id take the sheet out and look at it. it helps to refresh my memory of what im going to say and stuff. its something to try

I usually just rock Cocky and Funny through open and attractoin, then if I think of an opportunity I could use I use it. And even some of my best routines I've made have been from just being C&F, and trust me. It's a lot easier to use your own routines.

yup u gotta prepare before. in the future u will not need material, u gotta start somewhere

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I got exactly same problem and it happens everywhere. Cant really talk to any stranger or semi-stranger without being uncomfortable with it. Im stiff and talk about stupid things and when ""SARGING"", I either cant think anything to say or I keep saying these idiotic things that have nothing to do with the situation (like, "I hate the weather" "me too" "and I had burger yesterday" "...(wtf)".
This blows. Im pessimistic as hell, yet I know that I could be funny company if I could get rid of my fears but it seems like impossible task to do. I've noticed my eye contact, speech and body language are all horrible and I've tried to improve them but gotten only minor progress or no results at all. I want to get over this shit, FAST. Im tired of being like this. I know that being succesful PUA takes helluva lot time but at first I'd be happy just with more social IQ and being able to handle social situations in a way that'd give commendable image of me.

Might contain typos n nonsense but skip it, Im at work and my brains are at zero.

I have this problem. One way I'm learning to overcome it is just to let out whatever is on my mind. If nothing is on your mind, point out something. "Look, an airplane!" "Hey, what a weird looking pair of shoes you have on!" "Is it just me, or does that cloud formation look like George Bush with a Nixon mask on?"

One, it helps you get used to speaking with someone. Two, it shows you the consequences of not being prepared before hand. If you're forgetting your openings, this'll also help because it should help build your abilities with dealing with other people on a verbal plane. Not saying it's going to work right away, hell, I'm still using this method on myself. But I've found that I have less problem aiming conversations where I want it to go, as oppose to when I started using it.

Keep in mind to LEARN FROM EACH EXPERIENCE and APPLY what you've learned the next time you use it. It's pointless if all you do is go up and say something random and walk away just for the sake of doing it. Consciously push yourself to keep the conversation going as long as you can. Go in with a couple of goals, i.e. get her name as well as her pet's name or get them to describe their shoes for you without looking at their feet.

well last night i think i finally overcame my fear of aproaching...i was at a bar and it wasnt really to packed i grabed my beer and headed for my corner,and scoped out the room and i noticed a hb8 sitting at the bar all alone..so i took a drink and said wtf ill go hit on her..so i walked over looked her in the eyes and said why is it your over hear by yourself and looking like your being very bored?she said im not im having fun...i said sure looks like it..so whats your name mine is jamie she told me it was cheryl..i said nice to meet you...so why you hear by yourself?you not a friendly kind of girl..she just laughed and tried to keep from talking to me but i kept on her..well we talked for a while then she said she had to go to the bathroom.so i sit there and waited when she got back she said lets go outside cus its hot..we were outside and she couldnt keep from looking at my eyes and the same for me..well about a half hour later she went back to the bathroom came out and told me to come back inside..when i got to the bar stool i sat with her and asked her why she was so far away? she said im not you are lol...then out of no were she said hey wanna go to the titty bar? i was like sure but why? she said i dunno sounds fun i wanna see you get a dance..i said well why do i need them to dance when i got you hear with me..her eyes lit up and she giggled...well she said lets go..so we left the bar and on the way out to the cars she threw me her keys and said you drive. so we went there to the titty club we got in there and she was all about talking about what the girls looked like ...she gave me a dollar for a stage dance,then when it was over she said now you buy me one...so i gave it to her and she went up there and might i say wow it was hot she was into it and the stripper made it very good for her there was sum dudes next to our table and they looked over at me and said your in trouble tonight and one came over and giv me the knuckle bump lol and walked over to the stage and put a dollar on the hb8's crouch and looked atr me and pointed at me and smiled...so after that they yelled out the bar was closed so i new i had to act cus she had told me that i wasnt getting ne from her tonight.so i felt like i needed to step it up...so i asked her where she wanted to go next and she said well do you have ne beer at your house?( note to everyone make sure you have beer at your house at all times)i said no...she said we should get a carry out...so i went back in and bought a 6 pak...and went back to the car and asked ok now were and she asked were i lived so i told her and she said thats a little to far...so i said lets go to this one park that was near and she said thats awesome lets go...we got there and grabed a beer and went to the swings and sat down she was all about showing off her body and i was all about checking it out cus i hadnt acted like i was interested in her body untill we got to the strip club...well then she told me to swing and lay my head back cus it was cool so i did it for a second but then i stoped and walked in front of her swing to wear when she came towards me i was in front of her and when she swung to me i grabbed her up and kissed her..she just looked at me with a glase in her eyes..so we went over to a bench and i leaned in to her and she grabbed me and we made out for a minute then i pulled away and walked to a table neer by and she said what are you doing..i said come find out she laughed and jumped up and came right over..when she got there i picked her up sat her on the table and started to really make out more intensly now..then i started to feel up on her and nibbling on her neck and ears,she was all into it and told me we needed to slow down cus she wasnt like that on the first night.so i stoped for a few but kept talking it up to her and i grabed a quick finger taste of her puss and it was pretty tasty but very clean(thats why i did that to check if it wasnt stanky lol)she said slow down jamie i said ok hun but why your wanting me to and she said oh god i know i do but im not that way..so we talked about me eating it and just getting it on when ever and i said do you trust me?she said i dont trust no one i said im saying right now?im not gonna do ne thing just lay back and imagin she did this with out giving another thought..so she layed back and i sucked on her shorts in that area and she was into it so badly,i kept making my tounge go past her shorts and on the sides of her panties and she said your so not right your teasing me badly...i said no im not im just doing what you want me to do...then she caved in she said just pull them down and do it i cant wait no more...so i did it and i was going to town on that shit and it was hilarious her screams and moans were prolly waking every neighbor around but i kept at it like a trooper..then i started to finger it and lik it back in forth and she blew up all over my hand and said omfg we need to stop you need to give me a break i said im not done yet and she started to gasp and shaking ...so i ended up stoping and she said we need to wait but it was deffinatly going to happen today but i havnt heard from her yet i sent her a text but no responce..but it was very awesome #closed,partial fclose,and she was a hb8 its all gravy in my mind


approaching can be overcome just do it!!!!

Oh my god... Everytime when I look at this post, it just cracks me up... Totally...

Its not the post actually, just the way its written .

Edit: Yes, I know I'm evil..., but try to understand me. TOTAL LAUGH!

I vote for the GREATEST field report EVER. Great job man !

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This happens me too, as well as that when i start talking my voice goes all squeeky and the words dont come out right, as a result i get more nervos and it gets worst and worse untill i feel like a real plonker. Its just like in certain movies the boy with the hot's for some chick just goes blank and bottles everything he had planned to say.