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PostPosted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 9:14 pm 
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I dont consider myself shy.....but Im having problems getting into a positive-social attitude.

In short, i want to expand my social network, but when I talk to the right people... Im just not in the right mindset.

What I need is something to keep my coolness all the time, and to appear interesting all the time...so when an oportunity presents, I can perform my best.

I prefer real life activities rather than NPL stuff....never worked on me


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PostPosted: Wed Feb 20, 2008 5:34 pm 
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It sounds like your sarging on your own? That may be half the problem right there. I only sarge alone in familiar territory, places where I've already set up my social proof. There, people know I bring the party, and they follow me willingly.

If I'm heading out elsewhere, it helps to have a wing as backup. Someone who subconsciously reminds me that I'm Bright, and no matter who blows me out that night, or how hard I crash and burn, there have been just as many times I've walked into a room and made it mine.

Breaking into a set is hard enough with backup. It's way too easy to crumble into a self-conscious mess without it. Try going out with a buddy instead of on your own, someone who reflects and amplifies the energy you put out when sarging.

If your talking about settling into a cruddy mood, then that's different.

Some people bitch, and cry.

I bounce.

Whenever I'm in a funky, grumpy, self-conscious, don't-want-to-talk-to-anyone mood, I bounce a couple of times, plaster on a smile and go talk to the first set I see.

Spark does push-ups. It's more about the physical activity then what your actually doing to get the blood pumping. It's a ten second rush of blood to all the parts of your body that were stumbling along to the tune of daily monotony and general AA-inducing behavior.

Next time you start to pull in on yourself and let the AA take over, bounce around for your three seconds of stall time and then make your approach.

Also - Never ask yourself what you're doing there!

You're there.

Now make sure everybody knows it.

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