I am 25 years old and I have tried opening only a few times and all of them left me fearful, embarrassed and sad.

My subconscious mind sees the trend and has associated opening with those negative emotions (fear, sadness, etc)

Therefore, now my mind will just avoid approaching a woman no matter whats at stake here.

Lets start by bringing a more positive attitude.

True or not, but when you accept that your unconscious mind is processing information and making you act a certain way, then its over before it begins don't you think?

Openers aren't the only way to be "successful."

Different people are good and different things. Every basketball team has a 3 point specialist who wont do anything else, but is damn good at it. Who says you can't find your own "game" niche?

I am not particularly into doing openers/approaches. BUT, I focus on making and taking care of my female friends. If you are a good guy to these girls, THEY will do your advertising for you when they have hot friends etc. Your female friends should be your most powerful weapons.

So there's step 1 for me, don't try to "close" EVERYBODY. Delayed gratification is underrated and almost obsolete unfortunately. So that is exactly why it will work. Your bros can only help you so much regardless of how great friends they are.

So stop with the negative feelings and limiting beliefs. Find something in your arsenal that you can focus some positivity and progress on.

Good luck man.

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I can relate to you, but would the pain of not doing and having possible success more pain than never trying.

My recommendation is create a spreadsheet of all those approaches you could have but didn't and will never know the outcome. Looking at all those numbers build up of all those girls who could have been fucked or girlfriend right in front of your eyes will get you the kick you need.

Remember that you miss 100% of the shots you didn't take.

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You're right. Your mind currently associates approaching women with pain. You just gotta retrain it. Its a good first step that youve realized your mind is the cause of your fears. Now you have power to take control of your mind and retrain it to love approaching women. Fear is all in the imagination. Its not real. Its possible to reprogram your mind.

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Hey mate,

I've just read your post. It takes an awful lot of bulls to say that statement, so well done! I can relate to feeling crap after being knocked-back. How I have gotten over this, is basically not giving a sh*t. Try and find it funny if a girl rejects you, and congratulate yourself for having the confidence and bulls to go to the women in the first place. When I was younger I never approached, and its only lately i've done it. So keep on trying!!

If I were you, just keep trying. If you get rejected think about what you could do differently, and keep trying!! Try and remember that sometimes women might have a hundred things going on in their life, its not you. They could not be having a good time in life right now!!

There's a hundred of small things you can do to improve your performance. Try and smile and dress well, and just try and have a conversation, and keep it simple. There are loads of books and advice on this website, so just pick and choose what suits you.

Try not to get it to get you down. Feel good that you are approaching!!!!

C