Not sure where else to post this so...

Hi folks I've been registered here for a while but this is the first time other than when I introduced myself that I've posted on here. I have a couple of questions that have come up in the last few days that I really need some feedback on. My main concern is that I come across as being to 'stalkerish' if that's the right word for it.

It's like this a couple of weeks ago I was speaking with this one woman who works at a bookstore we kept talking for a while and she was listening to me, making eye contact with me the whole time. Another customer came in so she had to deal with him. I chose to wait around for a while but this customer was taking a while and I had places to go so I said I wanted to leave before I bought anything else (I do buy stuff from this store frequently) the next time I saw her I got a mixed message and avoidance of eye contact. Now maybe I'm reading too much into it but did my lingering for a while possibly creep her out?

Second event happened tonight I was on my way out this restaurant and I saw another woman with whom I've been getting pretty good IOI's for a while now. My work schedule and hers don't blend well so when I saw her headed for the back and she didn't hear me when I called out for her. I again chose to stick around for a few minutes but she didn't come out of the back right away. So I chose to leave rather than appear well 'too creepy' by hanging out at the front door for an extended period of time, especially after the hostess began asking questions. So again do you hang around in a situation like this or leave?

First post about this topic on this forum ever so I need some feedback about this.

Please take my words lightly, im terrible and recently bummed out hehe.
But personally i think i wouldn't hang out in the bookstore.
I feel, if you left, it would have given you a reason to return the next day to continue your conversation.

Event 2 - I'm not sure, this seems like it's ok to hang and wait because you're co-workers.

Whenever you're in a situation like this, stay occupied even if that is waiting, like pretend you have ADD...everything gets your attention don't' wait for her. This seems needy and weak.

If I were in your shoe, I would have gone to take a look around or stop talking to some random strangers, and when she comes back, where is he?

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Event 2 - I'm not sure, this seems like it's ok to hang and wait because you're co-workers.[/quote]

This wasn't a co-worker situation! It might've gone better if it had been lucky for me she didn't see me waiting at any point before I left. The Hostess did though and I just said I saw a friend of mine and then said that the person wasn't coming out so I just left. I posted this up at another forum and the feedback I got there was wait a few days before going back, if at all for a while.

Take these two experiences with a grain of salt. Hostesses/bartenders/store clerks are paid to help customers, so don't read too much into it. Like Gabriel said, if there is a connection and you choose to wait, do something other than starring at the door, waiting for her to come out. Use that time to find something cool you can tell her about when she does, or on the later occasion if she doesn't.

Al