hey guys, hate to sound like an afc, but i have a few problems that has to do with my social shyness...
basically i feel like a minority and i feel like no matter how i project myself (which i think i do well) i will get discriminated against or judged against by girls... basically i'm asian and i'm about 5'6 5'7.. so im a pretty short dude so i feel like i have a lot of stereotypes against me so i'm sometimes intimidated or automatically bring myself down before i meet a girl i don't know for the fear of being discriminated.. ive been told im above average or cute by girls, but that doesn't really do much to increase my inner confidence.. outside, i do a lot of stuff like on the rugby team, i work out, and try my best to do things i enjoy and luckily the things i enjoy happen to be the things girl look for in a guy to be interested in, but i feel like im carrying this baggage with me all the time...
i'm really interested in this girl right now, but she's really tall.. she's like near 6 feet tall and i know she would dwarf me... i really want to remedy this social shyness and anxiety so i can have the best chance with her... basically known her since i started junior high and back then we were about the same height
i asked her out in gr.7, but she rejected me, but those times are gone now and we're talking about hanging out again ! i'm trying to play on the point of the whole first love type of thing cuz i know that i was her first dance and all that romantic stuff
sorry about the long post but my basic question to you is:
was anyone in this kind of situation where they felt like they were automatically judged, and if so, how did you combat it?
CHAT