I noticed something today while I was out wrestling with my fear of cold approaches. There is a distinct difference in the way a successful approach feels from one where I back down. This difference is entirely mental.

If I decide to back down, my mind is noisy. I am filled with thoughts. Regret about not approaching, what I should have done, instantaneous excuses, and the words of the PUAs I've tried to learn from are just some of the things that are all occupying space in my consciousness at once. It occurs to me that most of these thoughts are ultimately pointless, and the intense mental activity only serves to distract and discourage.

On the other hand, if I can actually reach the state where I have decided to approach, I am overwhelmed by a single sensation: silence and motion.

Some of you are thinking, "that's two sensations" and you are technically correct and shut up.

The point is, it feels like one combined sensation which I don't have a name for. Your mind, no longer able to focus on anything other than your goal, is suddenly silent, and you feel your legs taking you towards the source of the fear. I imagine this is much the same as the feeling soldiers get right before a battle - the mind is quiet, and in that moment, you know you are truly alive.

Silence and motion, guys. That's what it's all about.

I like what you wrote.

This is basically something called building momentum here in the community. Now sometimes you hit it off right from the start; by making an excellent opener and having success.

But most probable seems the fact that you wont be good at the start, and you have to be simply social and enjoy yourself while talking to strangers.

Once you`ve done 4 or 5 approaches you already have some momentum, I recommend you to read more on the subject couse all the voices shut the fuck up and get in motion towards the goal: to have fun.

This Is what is commonly known as as a snow ball effect. In the field you will see people frozen with fear. It happens all the time to a lot of people. The simplest way to break out of is and get into the positive state of mind is to change the focus. Give them something else that is easy for them to accomplish and the positive will be created and enforced.
The mind is an amazing thing I read in think and grow rich that 90 % of what we think about doesn't happen. Yet our mind will create all these different options. With to many options nothing happens the minds stops you from moving.
To change that out come of confliction you must change the focus and move to more of a single mission and accomplish that.

Hope this makes sense. I don't got a word for it either.

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The Japanese call this state "Mushin" it means literally "No mind" It's when your unconscious which holds you back if you're a newbie due to hardwired evolutionary patterns in your mind is finally convinced by your thinking mind-the prefrontal cortex to go and make the approach and takes over from your conscious mind. An advanced PUA with thousands of approaches behind him enters this state and let's it do the gaming. I have heard Mpuas say that it's like they're just sitting in their own head listening to the words come out when they game a girl. It's so deeply embedded in the mind the gaming is done automatically.

If you want an example of this watch your hands the next time you tie your shoe laces. They're moving independent of your thinking mind all on their own. You've tied them so many times that it's totally unconscious.

This is the pinnacle of game.

That's true and psychological. Its that when we loose we opt to blaim our conscience for it. Whereas in both the matters the mind is as much filled with thoughts as always.

agree with angelalindley, it is psychological, that applies the saying that action speaks louder than words. Everything in your mind, can motivate every oneself.