So I have these two friends: Friend A and Friend B. If it's just a 1-on-1 encounter, I can easily talk to one of them. But when they hang out together, talking to either one of them is impossible!

Even before I met them, Friend A and Friend B have been friends for a while. When it's the three of us together, Friend A and Friend B have a lot of things to talk about to each other; in fact, they have so much commonality and connection between each other that they totally exclude me in their interaction. I had no idea what the hell they were talking about. Their conversation was just one big inside joke! Not once did they try to get me in the conversation; I just sat there and listened to their stories while trying to look for a gap where I can say what i need to say.

To me, when it comes to 1-on-1, there's no problem. It's just adding another person to the whole interaction will suddenly make me go quiet. I need to know what to do whenever these quirks start to show - the problem of me going quiet whenever two or more people talk amongst themselves while not including me - because, as an aspiring PUA, the same thing's gonna happen at some other time.....except with hot babes.

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"I've learned it's important not to limit yourself. You can do whatever you really love to do, no matter what it is." - Ryan Gosling

dude, i have the same experiences alot.
Honestly its kinda DLV, and its really lame.
I dont really know what to do ,but u can try to stand in between them and take charge of the conversation.
By talking something u all have in common, but if they were really into their own convo, theres no way you can disturb them.
From my point of view, 3 ppls arent really good, cuz someone is always getting blown out off
the conversation.

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I assume these are guy friends, not girl friends?

In any event, what I would do when in that situation is really easy, I'd just say, WTF are you guys talking about? Care to clue me in on whatever the hell it is I'm missing?

Real friends will likely go "crap man, sorry, and give you the download." Shit friends who are jealous of you or feel like their competing with you or some shit will avoid doing the former. In that case, the solution is simple, just like a chick who will hang out with you as a backup option, these guys will hang out with you when there's nothing better to do.

Hopefully your two friends aren't the latter type.

If you are not happy with your friends, go, and find someone that will include you in everything they do, and everything they are talking about. Go on, have some fun, meet new friends that is better than them.

Well, one of them is a girl; the other is a gay guy. Whenever I converse in a group and hold the floor, I naturally bring the third person into the conversation whenever s/he goes quiet or doesn't feel like s/he is interacting much. I'd say, "What do you think?", "Doesn't that seem interesting to you?", and other things that'll get them to talk.

But if my friends don't invite me into their conversation, I either just pass time on my cellphone, continue eating (if we're in the college dining hall), or look for the gap that'll allow me to talk.

I don't think they're "competing" to get each other's attention and validation. Maybe their communication skills just suck, period. But if I need to interrupt their conversation and take the wheel as you suggested, then I'll do just that.

And friends who hang out with me because I'm a "last resort" kinda sounds bad. I should be the first person they go to! lol

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"I've learned it's important not to limit yourself. You can do whatever you really love to do, no matter what it is." - Ryan Gosling