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hey guys i needed your help on this topic. it doesnt really have to do with girls, but since a lot of you in the community probably went through this i thought i could get your help on this matter.


im a freshman in college, meaning that im dorming right now with 9 other guys. i wanted to know how to get their respect, basically. i mean its not like they don't respect me at all, but i can't just do whatever i want and act however i want because im not the alpha male in the group. i guess it goes by how manly or tough you are to see how much pepole listen to you? i don't know

my problem is that my suitemates just don't listen to me. i mean, i'm cool with them and all, but what do i need to do to get more respect and stuff from them? do i act more tough and manly or what? i'm being pretty nice to the guys kinda right now...i try crackin jokes but i don't get the same response as if the alpha male cracks jokes or makes comments. what do u guys recommend i should do?


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Damn, 10 guys in a dorm room? Or is that a whole floor? Its hard to break through as the alpha in that situation, since everyone has their position and its hard with that many guys. Some little things you can do...

1. Don't automatically do shit they want you to do. Don't be a dick, but don't be a pussy either.
2. Bring friends over. Being the social dude raises your value with whoever you are around.
3. Don't care what others think. If you let little shit effect you, you lose.
4. Hang out with everyone. Don't pick and choose whoever you think is the "coolest" and only hang out with them, be social.

But all in all, you should just be yourself. If they don't respect you, oh well. It shouldn't effect your life, or how you pick up girls.

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I agree, Guys tend to follow whoever doing something entertaining, so If your that guy then they will follow you.
The trick is to be fun without being annoyingly energize all the time.

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How to become the king of your college.
This is something that’s been tested and proved as pure GOLD. This works only if you are going to a new college, where the majority of people don’t already know one another. There’s no need to have some crazy PU or social skills to do this, everybody can do it, and it’s so simple. It’s a natural human process that you can use to improve your social life.
When young people come to college, most of them don’t know each other, so sooner or later they will need to make friends, or join an already established group.
Usually it takes a few weeks till those friendship circles are formed. So after a few weeks, you will see many circles with 5 to 10 members in each group.
Once they are formed, some of them will last until the very end of college days, until graduation. It’s hard to manipulate already established groups. The only thing you can do in that case is to join the group, but then you cannot establish yourself as the leader, as you are a new member. The easiest way to join an already established group is to pick one person from group, and create rapport with them. She or he will invite you to go and hang out with the rest of the group. Then slowly you can create rapport with all the other members, and that way you will become an intrinsic part of that circle of friends.
But I must say that this is not the way I like to do it. My style is more creating a group and controlling it, and that’s what I want to teach you.
The first 7-10 days are particularly crucial. In those first few days, social circles will be created. The goal is to create a social circle of 6-7 hot girls, make them friends, and establish yourself as a leader of the group. Going to clubs with them: can you just imagine the respect and admiration you could have, going to a club with 10 hot girls? Basically, with this kind of social proof, you can have any girl in the club. Or inviting your new hot friends to your home party. Then let them invite a few of their other friends also. Soon you will find yourself living your life surrounded with hot girls. That’s the lifestyle I am talking about.
So let me teach you how to do it.
During the first and second day of college, people will be extremely friendly, because they will be nervous, scared, and anxious of the new environment, the new context in their life. Some of them will look lost, like sheep that have wandered from the flock. They will feel lonely, and will have an incredible urge to meet new people and make friends in order to remove the unpleasant feeling of isolation and aloneness. You can use this knowledge to make a difference in your own life.
Don’t be shy; be friendly towards them, there is no pressure to seduce them, or anything like that. You can go straight for rapport without concerning yourself with attraction. It’s just about being friendly, cool and normal, and getting to know people that you will spend the next few years with. Don’t be weird, and don’t talk about your obsessive computer gaming habit and addiction to internet porn.
Naturally during these first few days there will be many events, introductory sessions, initial lectures, and so on. Information is normally advertised clearly in the college so you should get there early and make sure you know what’s going on. When you go to one of these events, make sure you try to sit next to some hot chick that you would like to befriend. Start a conversation, exchange some basic facts about yourselves. Where you’re from, your hobbies, your family; get them into some kind of conversation. Exchange numbers, hang-out with her after the class or lecture, go for a coffee or drink. Just be friendly, and try to make new friends. Don’t try to PU them! Not yet, anyway. You can get them in class, in hallway, inside dorms. Whatever.
Next day, or at the next class, do the same thing with a new hot girl, sit down next to her in the class, or talk for 20-30 minutes, build rapport, hang out with her afterwards, but this time invite the girl from before to join you. Or more of them if possible.
You will see as soon as you sit down with two girls that they will start to connect. They are extremely good at bonding, and creating rapport with each other. Especially hot girls. Because they have so many thing in common. So all you need to do is isolate 2 or more girls somewhere for a coffee, or a drink, and then let them connect by themselves.
Don’t hit on them, or try to seduce them during the first few weeks. The social proof you create for yourself by hanging out with these girls will get you tonnes of other girls. This is all about creating a lifestyle at university or college, a lifestyle that will bring you chicks by itself. But if you decide you want to take advantage of their loneliness in the new situation, then by all means find one and seduce her. But don’t bring her into your group.
You see, bringing a girl you’ve slept with into your social circle can be dangerous. You can easily destroy the group, or the girl you sleep with can spread pernicious rumours about you, and destroy your reputation in the group. So it’s better to keep the two activities separate.
So over the course of 5-7 days, you can collect 6-10 girls into a social circle. Gather them together at regular intervals. Once they get together, and get to know each other (which should take one or two meetings) they will become good friends.
They will exchange phone numbers, emails, and keep in contact. You will see how they will later plan to study together, to exchange books, scripts and essays for college.
After 10 days, and after you’ve created this social circle, try to get them together from time to time, like go out together partying…the more things you do with them, or they do together, the better friends they will become. So try to create some events that will bond them together even more.
Naturally the more experiences the group has together, the more things they will have to talk about tomorrow, and the more reason they will have to hang-out tomorrow. In this way it becomes self-perpetuating.
After you’ve formed your group of a few hot girls, a few weeks later you can start taking advantage of it. Start organizing home parties, and let your new hot friends, invite their girlfriends to the party. Because everyone likes you, and because you are their LEADER, chicks that come from outside the group will have considerable ATTRACTION for you.
You can also take them to clubs. Hug all of them, and go out. Have fun with them. Other chicks in the club will notice this, and trust me; they will start hitting on you. Chicks always want to have what other girls have. You can easily get to the point where you don’t need to pick up chicks at all, instead, they will be around you, and you just need to choose which one you want. Maybe this all looks a bit complicated at the moment, but it’s much easier to set up than you might imagine.
It’s hard to organize a group consisting solely of girls. Sometimes it happens, but mostly, you will have 1 or 2 guys inside. And that’s just fine. It’s ok to have a few of those guys inside your group. Usually, when we go out, those are the guys who are buying drinks for our girls…Also they protect the girls from other drunken guys inside club that may hit on them. So basically, they can be made use of.
Whenever you put a bigger group of people into one place, they will never work as a group; instead, they will separate into smaller groups of 3 to 5 people. You can see this demonstrated on the reality show ‘Big Brother’. And after the initial group forms, an alpha will come forward, the person who is going to be the head of the group. Usually this is the most dominant person, he makes all the decisions, and the rest blindly follow.
So if you organize everything, if you make decisions for the group, you think for them. They will see you as the Alpha male, and they will naturally follow you.
Later on, you can leave that social circle alone. Usually from the circle a new person comes forward that will becomes its leader, and decides everything for the group.


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^thats really good stuff. Thanks for posting that... Because I'll be heading off to college next year.

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yea freshman yr was only 2 yrs ago and was still hardcore afc. basically there was one guy who ended up being the alpha male and we're still friends. wut happened was he would get women left and right. he started poaching my girl so i called him on it and beat the crap outta him.

also being an alpha male dun mean u can do wutever u want just that ppl will look to you and think "damn wish i was him" in a sense letting you lead. just make sure u dun poach or be a dick. theres always gonna be sum lil asian waitin to kick ur ass. hhahahha jk. but yea just cuz ur a nice funny guy wont stop sum other frustrated amog from tryin to usurp ur position physically.

funny things ive learned... muay thai and bjj have helped me take down guys up to 225 when 145lbs, but it still cant help you against guys that r 290.


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I agree that you just need to do things that are interesting and they will follow you. If your room is big enough you could throw a party(bring enough girls so your roomies don't complain) Pair them up with the less attractive ones(save the HBs for yourself) and you have yourself a good night and the AFC's in your room are grateful.


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10 guys in one room!?!?!??!??!! It's Time for a Royal Rumble lol

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my buddy manwhore over at rsd also had a post that I think could benefit you guys here. It's more directed towards the college scene, but I still belief it will help you.
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Check to see if your college has a campus tv station- then start a show. Get your buds on it with you. It could be about anything. Just look good doing it- the skills you learn here are obviously what I'm talking about. You could be 3 dudes sitting on a couch discussing college chicks and it would totally get an audience.

Tell the frats and sororities you have a show and want to promote their events, do the same with the sports teams. You'll be cordially invited and well-received at all their events. Plus your show will be known for advertising all the upcoming parties. Face-time baby.. there's nothing like it.

If you're on a sports team then volunteer to be the publicist dude and contact all the sororities and frats asking for their support in getting people to come out to your games/matches/whatever. Actually only contact the sororities It is amazing how sweet those sorority presidents are when they find out who you are and that you are asking for their "support".

There are alcohol companies out there that are looking for motivated dudes like you to hardwire events together. Find a cheap venue, hook up with a local alcohol company- they'll bring their beer and do the legal shit and you'll have a topnotch party. Also some of those companies are in with the local band scene- there's nothing like having a live band playing with kegs of Arrogant Bastard flowin'..

Also arrange for party buses.. picking people up from campus and then dropping them back off later. This will guarantee a lot of fuckin' drunk people. Fuckin' drunk people fuck.

Start up a drinking fraternity and throw baseball game keggers- I forget the scientific name but basically you hit the ball and run around the bases drinking beer. It's a fucking riot

Do raffles 'n shit at these parties. Say the first girl to get naked wins the snowboard. They get naked.. believe me.

Throw a lingerie party and enforce the rules. It's hilarious watching people come up fully-clothed and the look on their face when you tell them to strip. They will strip

Have and decorate a Champagne Room. Soft lights, couches, and mood music. Remember- there is no sex.. in the Champagne Room

Beach bonfire parties are fucking gay

Theme parties are the fucking bomb. Pimp 'n Ho parties are fun. I've seen a "Just fucked" party that was gawdamn bomb. I packed 5? semi-naked chicks into the back of my car

Start a party website for your college. Post that motherfucker on flyers and tack them to bulletin boards around your campus. It could be a myspace website who cares.


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The how to become king list is gold, and I am sure many of us have done some of the things on the list, well I have, but actually doing point by point of the list is something of epic proportions.

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Sarging on College\Uni ( Become a KING ), easy steps to get all girls on college(by BadBoy)
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How to become the king of your college.
This is something that’s been tested and proved as pure GOLD. This works only if you are going to a new college, where the majority of people don’t already know one another. There’s no need to have some crazy PU or social skills to do this, everybody can do it, and it’s so simple. It’s a natural human process that you can use to improve your social life.
When young people come to college, most of them don’t know each other, so sooner or later they will need to make friends, or join an already established group.
Usually it takes a few weeks till those friendship circles are formed. So after a few weeks, you will see many circles with 5 to 10 members in each group.
Once they are formed, some of them will last until the very end of college days, until graduation. It’s hard to manipulate already established groups. The only thing you can do in that case is to join the group, but then you cannot establish yourself as the leader, as you are a new member. The easiest way to join an already established group is to pick one person from group, and create rapport with them. She or he will invite you to go and hang out with the rest of the group. Then slowly you can create rapport with all the other members, and that way you will become an intrinsic part of that circle of friends.
But I must say that this is not the way I like to do it. My style is more creating a group and controlling it, and that’s what I want to teach you.
The first 7-10 days are particularly crucial. In those first few days, social circles will be created. The goal is to create a social circle of 6-7 hot girls, make them friends, and establish yourself as a leader of the group. Going to clubs with them: can you just imagine the respect and admiration you could have, going to a club with 10 hot girls? Basically, with this kind of social proof, you can have any girl in the club. Or inviting your new hot friends to your home party. Then let them invite a few of their other friends also. Soon you will find yourself living your life surrounded with hot girls. That’s the lifestyle I am talking about.
So let me teach you how to do it.
During the first and second day of college, people will be extremely friendly, because they will be nervous, scared, and anxious of the new environment, the new context in their life. Some of them will look lost, like sheep that have wandered from the flock. They will feel lonely, and will have an incredible urge to meet new people and make friends in order to remove the unpleasant feeling of isolation and aloneness. You can use this knowledge to make a difference in your own life.
Don’t be shy; be friendly towards them, there is no pressure to seduce them, or anything like that. You can go straight for rapport without concerning yourself with attraction. It’s just about being friendly, cool and normal, and getting to know people that you will spend the next few years with. Don’t be weird, and don’t talk about your obsessive computer gaming habit and addiction to internet porn.
Naturally during these first few days there will be many events, introductory sessions, initial lectures, and so on. Information is normally advertised clearly in the college so you should get there early and make sure you know what’s going on. When you go to one of these events, make sure you try to sit next to some hot chick that you would like to befriend. Start a conversation, exchange some basic facts about yourselves. Where you’re from, your hobbies, your family; get them into some kind of conversation. Exchange numbers, hang-out with her after the class or lecture, go for a coffee or drink. Just be friendly, and try to make new friends. Don’t try to PU them! Not yet, anyway. You can get them in class, in hallway, inside dorms. Whatever.
Next day, or at the next class, do the same thing with a new hot girl, sit down next to her in the class, or talk for 20-30 minutes, build rapport, hang out with her afterwards, but this time invite the girl from before to join you. Or more of them if possible.
You will see as soon as you sit down with two girls that they will start to connect. They are extremely good at bonding, and creating rapport with each other. Especially hot girls. Because they have so many thing in common. So all you need to do is isolate 2 or more girls somewhere for a coffee, or a drink, and then let them connect by themselves.
Don’t hit on them, or try to seduce them during the first few weeks. The social proof you create for yourself by hanging out with these girls will get you tonnes of other girls. This is all about creating a lifestyle at university or college, a lifestyle that will bring you chicks by itself. But if you decide you want to take advantage of their loneliness in the new situation, then by all means find one and seduce her. But don’t bring her into your group.
You see, bringing a girl you’ve slept with into your social circle can be dangerous. You can easily destroy the group, or the girl you sleep with can spread pernicious rumours about you, and destroy your reputation in the group. So it’s better to keep the two activities separate.
So over the course of 5-7 days, you can collect 6-10 girls into a social circle. Gather them together at regular intervals. Once they get together, and get to know each other (which should take one or two meetings) they will become good friends.
They will exchange phone numbers, emails, and keep in contact. You will see how they will later plan to study together, to exchange books, scripts and essays for college.
After 10 days, and after you’ve created this social circle, try to get them together from time to time, like go out together partying…the more things you do with them, or they do together, the better friends they will become. So try to create some events that will bond them together even more.
Naturally the more experiences the group has together, the more things they will have to talk about tomorrow, and the more reason they will have to hang-out tomorrow. In this way it becomes self-perpetuating.
After you’ve formed your group of a few hot girls, a few weeks later you can start taking advantage of it. Start organizing home parties, and let your new hot friends, invite their girlfriends to the party. Because everyone likes you, and because you are their LEADER, chicks that come from outside the group will have considerable ATTRACTION for you.
You can also take them to clubs. Hug all of them, and go out. Have fun with them. Other chicks in the club will notice this, and trust me; they will start hitting on you. Chicks always want to have what other girls have. You can easily get to the point where you don’t need to pick up chicks at all, instead, they will be around you, and you just need to choose which one you want. Maybe this all looks a bit complicated at the moment, but it’s much easier to set up than you might imagine.
It’s hard to organize a group consisting solely of girls. Sometimes it happens, but mostly, you will have 1 or 2 guys inside. And that’s just fine. It’s ok to have a few of those guys inside your group. Usually, when we go out, those are the guys who are buying drinks for our girls…Also they protect the girls from other drunken guys inside club that may hit on them. So basically, they can be made use of.
Whenever you put a bigger group of people into one place, they will never work as a group; instead, they will separate into smaller groups of 3 to 5 people. You can see this demonstrated on the reality show ‘Big Brother’. And after the initial group forms, an alpha will come forward, the person who is going to be the head of the group. Usually this is the most dominant person, he makes all the decisions, and the rest blindly follow.
So if you organize everything, if you make decisions for the group, you think for them. They will see you as the Alpha male, and they will naturally follow you.
Later on, you can leave that social circle alone. Usually from the circle a new person comes forward that will becomes its leader, and decides everything for the group.

dammit if i only thought of this shit a year and a half ago


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basically, YOU need to be the one who is the daredevil, the one who goes up to the girl and at the same time the one who has no enemies within those 9 guys, try and be friends with all of them but come across as detached from them.


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I'm new to college this year too and room with three guys, heres what I did. I had an advantage over them unlike you however. They all went to high school together and lived in the same neighborhood. I however did not so I was the oddman out meaning I was the one in charge since they all knew each other and had nothing to fear.

I'm from Philly and theyre all from some little farm country in northern PA. I instantly had the "omg hes from the city" respect, and then I just always had girls over and was always going to parties so I seemed like the cool guy. I would bring them to parties and hook them up with girls. So they always look up to me. I'm sitll in my freshmen year and this admiration has been consistent all year.

Bottom line: Look like you're the man. Have more girls over than all of them put together and you're instantly superior (they'll feel inferior, believe me)


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here is what I recommend, get a Hookah, a Xbox 360 (with multiplayer games like Call Of Duty 4 etc), and have stuff that belongs to you but is social stuff. When people want to do social stuff but indoors (at nights or rainy days) you are the one with the stuff. You will get invited to many parties just for the hookah alone often, works wonders in my HS.

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If you have the hookah, avoid using it. Don't do anything to sabotage your game.

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