I do have social anxiety but what hinders my success with even walking over to women and talking to them is other people, especially men. I know I'm a good looking guy without being big headed when saying that, I'm tall and have defined features in my face, nice build but not perfect.

Here are some examples...

Being served by a girl at McDonald's, she is very attractive and smiles and asks me what I want, slightly over friendly, I take it as her being a"fake robot employee" I just ask for what I want to eat and the guy stood next to me waiting for his food just stands there staring right at my face, I know he was going to do this, so I had stare him down and he looked away.

I talk friendly to another girl serving me in a store, I'm friendly I make her smile and be happy, a guy comes out from behind the back and starts listening in.

The above paragraph happened in another place but instead the guy told his staff to do something (I was chatting to her for two minutes)

Its like other guys home in straight away and get all jealous/like I'm a threat, now I inderstand that is the case but even when I'm not even talking to a girl, is my presence to other men really that intimidating?

Should I take it as compliments or ask them out what their problem is and embarrass them in front of the women by explaining why they are stood there staring?

They're jealous. You're talking to a cute girl that they wish they had the courage to approach. So they're trying to listen in and see what you're saying to make her so interested.

And even if that's not what is happening, that's a great frame to have, go with it. It helps a lot.

it happened to me twice this week (i approach tourists)!! there were 2 set on their own enjoyin' their cocktail and i approached them and everything went well (no i didn;t get any phone number of them,just kino and a fun conversation,i did it to warm up for other sets and pre-select myself) and there were 3 guys from the next table listening to what i was sayin' because i had the balls to do the move but they didn;t so they could listen to me propably to find out what i said to them and grabbed their attention so they can make something out of it. waiters don't create confidence they just wait for it so take this to your advantage

so use this next time it might help:use kino ofc and whisper playfully to the girl's ear and say with confidence "i think these guys have a good taste when it comes to women,but how come so far they didn't talk to you?".subconciously you quallified yourself that you have the balls to talk with her and girls are attracted to confidence.

hope that helps and let me know

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Another nice judo maneuver, if others get too close, is not to try to get rid of them or hide from them, but just confidently bring them in. If they're obviously poking their head in, just confidently reach over and shake their hand and say hi. Let them be involved for a minute and then, just as confidently, say that it was nice meeting them and allude to the fact that you are going to talk just the two of you (you and the original person) now. You will come across as a leader who isn't threatened by them. Actually may improve your status.

This may not always make sense, but it can in some situations.

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