Greetings.


So my problems are very similar to most of the problems the folks here are experiencing, or maybe I should've started in a smaller field.

But I've never been so frustrated in my life, and I thought I'm good with people.

I've no problems with performing on stage, or approaching new people in a group. In fact, I've had many instances where the group shines thanks to me. I know this, because I get groups rolling into code rofl with my banters and stuff.

Going solo apparently it's harder than what I thought. Twice this week it has happened to me. Earlier today, I saw this really cute girl in a shopping centre (with a scale of 7 out of 10) and I thought of approaching her.

The problem? I know I've no troubles with strangers, but it's just.... Nothing came out. I spend almost an hour trying to get my game on with her in a Dollar store (she was browsing), but nothing... Nothing came out at all.

Is this approach anxiety which is stopping me? Why does both my jaw lock up with each other and my heart rate double up before I could even say anything? It was very uncomfortable, and in my mind I want to open up a conversation, but nothing came out at all.

Like... seriously, nothing. In the end, she left. I lost track of her, and I -might- not get a chance like that again.

That's just one story. I had two encounters in a week and I botched both of them. With the same problem.

What should I do?

Start smaller. Instead of rehearsing the smooth opener in your head a million times, just ask the time, or where the toilet paper mite be. K.I.S.S (keep it simple stupid) tell your brain THAT! Over thinking is a buzz kill every time!

It also keeps your body language in check, when there is no fear of rejection from a simple question.

Hope this helps Bro.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

-facepalm- Good Lord, you're right. Here I am, trying to memorize a smooth pick-up line like a million times and boom.... Asking the time should've been much simpler.