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PostPosted: Sat Apr 28, 2012 4:01 am 
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saw an angel today at school, couldnt get myself to talk to her, need ideas on what to say to get her attracted and how to to the confidence to talk to her.


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PostPosted: Sat Apr 28, 2012 11:24 am 
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An angel? WoW man call the news! Damn haven't you took a picture? I'd like to see some bitch with wings and shit.

Now really... You need to stop this. There are no angels. There are only women. Women who work 90% the same way. Now what to say... have you tried "Hi", for example? Really... she's a school mate, there's no reason you shouldn't know each other.

And stop this other stupid shit too. "What do I say to get her attracted?" This is the stupidest question of all time, and it comes around this forum over and over again. We can't just tell you, because of the following reasons:

1) We don't know the bitch, therefore we don't know what she likes
2) It's mostly not what, but how you say it anyway.
3) As long as you view her as an "angel" without ever speaking to her, we could give you the best line ever and you will still fail.

How to get the confidence? Just do it! It's all in you, confidence is not something you get from the outside. It comes from within and you need to call it out, and the only way you can do it is to get the fuck out of your comfort zone. Sorry if I was a bit harsh at some points, I really just want your good.

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PostPosted: Sun Apr 29, 2012 9:41 pm 
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OP, I agree that you've been seeing this girl as an angel. And I agree that, up until now, you couldn't get yourself to talk to her. And the issue isn't how you see her. The issue isn't her at all really because you've not approached or talked to her. The issue is your confidence and your beliefs. Because, from your post, it seems like you think there's some magic thing you can say to her to make her attracted to you. Now, maybe there is. I don't know. But it does sound like thinking like that is holding you back.

The issue is not thinking of the right thing to say or a good thing to say. The issue is talking to her. Because the perfect line or word or saying in your head is useless if it stays in your head because you didn't approach her.

You say you need to get the confidence to talk to her. Well, what tells you you don't already have the confidence to talk to her? I don't know your life circumstances and I'm certainly not going to tell you that you can realise you have all the confidence you need to talk to the angel at school because it goes without saying that you can discover that for yourself.

What I will say is that people throughout the centuries have talked to angels. Whether it was in religious ceremonies or in their minds. Very few have had the chance to have a proper conversation with an angel. Very few have had the chance to find out whether an angel really is an angel or not. You have that chance and I wonder when you'll realise just how easy it is to take that chance and talk to her?


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OP, I agree that you've been seeing this girl as an angel. And I agree that, up until now, you couldn't get yourself to talk to her. And the issue isn't how you see her. The issue isn't her at all really because you've not approached or talked to her. The issue is your confidence and your beliefs. Because, from your post, it seems like you think there's some magic thing you can say to her to make her attracted to you. Now, maybe there is. I don't know. But it does sound like thinking like that is holding you back.

The issue is not thinking of the right thing to say or a good thing to say. The issue is talking to her. Because the perfect line or word or saying in your head is useless if it stays in your head because you didn't approach her.

You say you need to get the confidence to talk to her. Well, what tells you you don't already have the confidence to talk to her? I don't know your life circumstances and I'm certainly not going to tell you that you can realise you have all the confidence you need to talk to the angel at school because it goes without saying that you can discover that for yourself.

What I will say is that people throughout the centuries have talked to angels. Whether it was in religious ceremonies or in their minds. Very few have had the chance to have a proper conversation with an angel. Very few have had the chance to find out whether an angel really is an angel or not. You have that chance and I wonder when you'll realise just how easy it is to take that chance and talk to her?
^ Different approach. Not so harsh as me, but I like it. Probably his mind will approve of this more than my post for which he may not be ready yet. This piece of text is a good advice and is inspirational, I strongly recommend you OP to follow this.

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PostPosted: Mon Apr 30, 2012 6:47 pm 
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Your future self in 20 years time is saying "WTF was I scared of?" You don't have to be confident as long as you act confident, she won't know as long as you take on the confident persona. A confident guy would walk up to her and say "I saw you and I had to meet you, what's your name?"


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PostPosted: Wed May 02, 2012 1:44 am 
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thanks to all of you guys, i talk to this chick and shes a total weirdo, she doesnt even qualify to be in my friend zone.


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 Post subject: Re: thanks
PostPosted: Thu May 03, 2012 9:45 am 
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thanks to all of you guys, i talk to this chick and shes a total weirdo, she doesnt even qualify to be in my friend zone.
Haha see? And you thought she was an angel! This is a great lesson we all had to learn once. Next bitch! Good luck mate :)

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 Post subject: What should I so
PostPosted: Sat May 05, 2012 7:25 am 
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Thanks, she ask me to go and watch the avenger with her tomorrow but I'm planing on going with this cute Asia/white girl, should i take her and have casual sex with n then dip or should I just move on to my more desire girl n leave her alone?


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PostPosted: Sat May 05, 2012 3:55 pm 
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Mate. I'm not here to tell you what to do, I just wanted to help :D The only question here is what do you want to do? Do you want to see that girl too, or not? If yes, then sure go on to watch the avengers and maybe have some sexy time, if not, then just politely refuse her offer, and concentrate on the other girl.

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 Post subject: Confidence
PostPosted: Sun May 06, 2012 4:33 am 
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Man, I suffer from generalized anxiety I defiantly couldn't even think about what you want to do haha.

However, here is my advice...

Wait up each morning and look at yourself, dead in the mirror, focus only on your eyes looking back at you. If negative thoughts start to feel your head like "why do i have fucking pale blue eyes" or "my eyes look asian" (no racism indented). STOP.

Talk yourself up, say why your eyes are perfect out loud if you have to until you believe it. Now focus on your eye brows, forehead, etc until youve focused and said something positive about everything captured in the mirror.

You should be feeling really good now, now remember the girl, remember the feel you had when you were talking to her. Capture the feeling and ask your body to make it stronger ask your body to trigger more physical symptoms sweaty palms etc till you can feel the feeling throughout your body. NOW STOP IT.

Think about something anything, think about your dog or you mother's homemade meals whatever. Remember what you were thinking about and make sure the feeling is anxiety-free.

Next time, you see this girl or any girl and you know exactly what you want to say but the anxiety is holding you back. Think about your "anxiety-free" thought as your thinking walk up to the girl, begin your opener and associate her or welcome her mentally into your "anxiety-free" image. Alot to think about, I know, but you only need to do this for a split second, then you should have natural flow, my dude.

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 Post subject: Good luck!
PostPosted: Tue May 08, 2012 10:57 am 
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I think everything will be okay!


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