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PostPosted: Sun May 13, 2012 5:20 pm 
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I'm proud of being Japanese American, but I also think that being asian fucks with my inner confidence. I'm saying inner confidence when it comes to GIRLS, not my life. I'm not the stereotypical fob that America puts down. For example, think about that asian dude from The Hangover. Millions of Americans watch that, and automatically think "look at that faggot asian".

What I'm trying to say is that I think being an asian male sucks when it comes to girls. They automatically think of asians as nerdy losers.

Any tips will be appreciated.


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PostPosted: Sun May 13, 2012 5:58 pm 
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first of all the majority of woman do not think of asians as nerdy losers. Your attitude is negative and horrible so its completely understandable that you have no confidence and fail with non-asian woman. Im gonna guess your not so hot with asain woman either.

What may be true is that being asian, like being short, like being fat, like missing 3 fingers, like having bad teeth MAY be an obstacle with a lot of gaijin woman. You can make up for this with good game in most cases. Some non-asian woman are even going to prefer asain guys.

Anyway you arnt going to change what you look like at that level so you might as well develop great game, and go and practice your ass off in the field. Oh man that's the same advice I give everyone , go figure. Stop rationalizing and thus excusing failure.


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first of all the majority of woman do not think of asians as nerdy losers. Your attitude is negative and horrible so its completely understandable that you have no confidence and fail with non-asian woman. Im gonna guess your not so hot with asain woman either.

What may be true is that being asian, like being short, like being fat, like missing 3 fingers, like having bad teeth MAY be an obstacle with a lot of gaijin woman. You can make up for this with good game in most cases. Some non-asian woman are even going to prefer asain guys.

Anyway you arnt going to change what you look like at that level so you might as well develop great game, and go and practice your ass off in the field. Oh man that's the same advice I give everyone , go figure. Stop rationalizing and thus excusing failure.
I can get and have gotten asian girls/ philipino girls, because I don't fit into the nerdy category, but what I've noticed is that I get over-looked by non-asian girls. But yeah, I'm on this forum to help improve my game in general, and the thing is I prefer non-asian girls a lot of the times. Any advice on improving my game? Thanks


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I have two friends who are half asian. One is married to a blonde and the other dates quite possibly the hottest girl I know and she is white. I have found that unless you act like a stereotypical person of that race it isn't an issue. Myself, I am half white and half Mexican but people have told me I look Asian and I have not been involved with anything but white girls so don't let it limit you. Women are not as shallow as you think.


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PostPosted: Mon May 14, 2012 7:26 am 
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I'm proud of being Japanese American, but I also think that being asian fucks with my inner confidence. I'm saying inner confidence when it comes to GIRLS, not my life. I'm not the stereotypical fob that America puts down. For example, think about that asian dude from The Hangover. Millions of Americans watch that, and automatically think "look at that faggot asian".

What I'm trying to say is that I think being an asian male sucks when it comes to girls. They automatically think of asians as nerdy losers.

Any tips will be appreciated.

Well, well, well, another one of these Asian limiting belief :roll: Do you know what's really funny? I have Mexican and black friends who tries to go for Asian girls but they have a limiting belief that Asian girls don't like them because of their race.

Anyway, let's take your belief and slap the little bitch out of it so that we can install some "MAN" into your head.

First of all, do you feel like you deserve to be with the women you find attractive? I'm saying, if you were to go out and see this hot stunning blonde, brunette, latina, etc. etc beautiful babe, can you picture yourself with her? Can you see yourself holding her by the waist and walk, laughing and joking, doing normal shit, and having fun? If you can't, you better make yourself see it because if you find it difficult to picture yourself with the type of women you want to be with, you're going to have difficulties attracting those types of women into your life.

Second, do you feel comfortable with that thought of being with those type of women? If you're not, work on that. Really helps :) if you're not comfortable, most likely you're sabotaging yourself with your excuses, because as humans we tend to avoid pain and pursue pleasure. If you try to picture yourself being with those women, and negative "what if's" or "this couldn't work" or any type of negative thoughts that convince you that this may not work comes up, work on that and try to convince yourself why you deserve to have what you want. Because once you got your mind straighten out, and you see the girl, no bs excuses come up, instead you will have tons of excuses why you SHOULD get with the girl. Catch my drift?

Finally on the Asian part, you know stereotypes and racisms exists everywhere. Stereotypes exists because there's a lack of knowledge on how things really work, and it is there to generalize to a certain population. You going to let some general bs that is socially constructed affect your desires to be a fucking man and have what you want? Are you going to let stereotypes control you or are you going to be a fucking man and say fuck this, I'm a fucking man, I am fucking Asian, fuck stereotype, I am going to go have fun and no belief is going to stop me, because this is my life and I deserve to be happy! You think the asian stereotype will stop bruce lee from being a bad ass? Bruce lee would just round house kick the shit out of it. Be proud man, be a bad ass fucking asian and have as much non-asian women as you like haha

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the best way to get rid of this limit belief is just go out there and just talk to any random girls and see how they response. I went up and approach these to HB9 and HB10 brunettes both of them were into into me and were just trying to flirt with me.

do you think all girls actually think that asian guys are unattractive, "nerdy loser", not romantic? that shit is nothing but a myth. i have a friend who is an asian male and he's going out with a white girl.

just go out there and talk BE THE FUCKING MAN BE CONFIDENT AND GET RID OF THE NEGATIVE STEREOTYPES IN YOUR HEAD.

Arnold Schwarzenegger-- "If you can't go through the pain period, you make it to be a champion. If you can't go through it, forget it. And that's what most people lack: having the guts--the gusto go in and just say...'I don't care what happens'."


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PostPosted: Tue May 15, 2012 10:08 am 
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Thanks for the replies bros!
You guys are right, it was all in my mind.
This definitely helped my inner confidence! thanks a lot!


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I have a friend who is half Japanese and he gets more attention when were out than most of us. He is also married to a very attractive women.


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