So here's the thing, I'm 19 years old, haven't had sex yet, although I have had some opportunities. I have had some problems with anxiety, and I'm nervous about that I will not perform, especially if it will be with the girl I like very much, I'm afraid it will be a complete embarrasment, and this is kind of hindering me to take the next step.

Any pointers from you about having sex for the first time and beat the anxiety, this has really been getting me down lately :/

Ive been there, not only my first time, but also my first times with a new girl.

But the guy from above gave you the best advice ever; you see, if she doesnt do some kind of work, you wont be comfortable.
If she does not makes you comfortable around her bed, why would you fuck her in the first place?

Have a you being the price mentality, if she doesnt make something to please you, send her to fuck off. Or someone else

Man, no worrys on the subject, youll fuck the girl that suits you and it will be epic.

Just relax I know this might sound stupid but once you are there your body will know what to do just don't overthink it;communication is something very important as well specially if it's her first time as well.
Take care and good luck

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im 19 yo also and had sex for the first time a couple months ago. not to scare you but i did not get up my first time for like 30 minutes. it was pretty awkward and i never saw the girl again. my advice is just get it over with

thanks guys, really appreciate it

Is this the topic where i can ask you guys something about sex or is there another topic just for that?

Tony King is right, i find when having sex with women, especially since im still kinda inexperienced, they seem to take charge, telling me when to go faster/slower, guiding it in with they're hand ect.

Tony King is right, i find when having sex with women, especially since im still kinda inexperienced, they seem to take charge, telling me when to go faster/slower, guiding it in with they're hand ect.

I'm 18, turning 19 and in a similar situation. What the hell DO I SAY during sex? am I supposed to grunt and talk dirty like "yeah, you like that? take it bitch." I don't know.

couldnt agree more!

Well i need to ask all of you, how long did your first sex last? 5, 10, 15 minutes, or more?

Well I would have to say there is a lot of things to be said in the bed room. Most of which depends on the type of women you are with. Its all about that level of calibration you are most comfortable with. It is best to be with a experienced women at first. However, there are a lot of things to not be said, depending on the type of women your with. So I say when in doubt, in a pressure moment don't say shit, just do. In a moment when you have been with a women for a wile, you can experiment with some things.

Here some things that i usually say with most girls.
That is sexy.
Yeahhh, (softly in her ear)
Oh, I like that.
Your hott.
That feels good.

I calibrate how I look at her too. Most of these things when said should be in a low tone. Or a deeper version of your own voice. It really does inspire sex.

A few ideas.
Its best to give rather then expect or get.
There is a time to go for a kiss a moment. You just kind of feel it.
Sex is the on off switch. Im 28 so I don't play. If there is a women who is interested in me. I will know when to turn it on.
All sex is about is timing. Don't worry about coming off too week or smooth just be aware of it. The other things will come with time.
If she is cool she will understand any short coming.

My first time was not very awesome. I just got it over with so to speak. Some women are the same. Some want it to be special. Some just dont care who they fuck. The best thing to know is that a women's sex life is arbitrary, you should not dwell just enjoy her time when she gives it too you.

I know it can be pressure. It can overwhelm. But rest assured it is going to happen. Think of this.

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What should you do if you cum to fast? Should i say something to her? Can you guys share some experiences with us?

Your cumming too fast because your turned on by the women you have. Talking to her will.. Turn her on more... more often then not..

I would not say anything if this is your issue. It happens to the best of us. When I am with a new girl. I am usually premature, in this regard. I usually say something like "next time will be longer babe."

Its cool because it lets her know you wanna fuck again.

I think that saying something is not not necessary in the first few times. Or if your young.

However if you must talk talk talk. I suggest that you have a sit down with her after you tried a few things and see what it is that she likes. Remember to try first, she will respect the forthcumming haha.

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OK, thanks for the help. But how could i hold myself not to cum too fast? Should i change positions more often, should i imagine something that doesnt turn me on, something ugly If i dont masturbate for months, will i last longer?