I really dont think its possible for me to ever get good at this game. Im 20 years old and really shy. I have friends, but even with them i am very quiet. I also come across as very boring as i find it extremely hard to show any emotion or enthusiasm when i talk and interact with other people. Im not a bad looking guy, but even so my confidence and self esteem are still very low the majority of the time.

I decided, that before i start approaching actual hot girls i should practice approaching strangers on the street (ask the time etc). But even that seems like a task. Its like when it comes to it, i lose all motivation and just tell myself that i will do it some other time. However, i have never gotten down to it.

Im just really fed up now, i want to become confident, outgoing, funny, charming, cool, and well just about evey other good quality you can think of. But i just dont feel as if it is possible to go from being a nervous shy guy to a confident ladys man. But i want it so bad.

Does anyone have any motivational advice? would be much appreciated.

I can tell you that rejection became my friend. And it's not even like I got hardcore 'rejected' either - people were just total dicks, and it taught me not to care so much.

I forced myself to ask people for directions or the time. I'll still do it occasionally to practice. The first few times I asked directions, people were real dicks to me. I think part of this was my weak body language, which translated into a 'shady' vibe.

I read your post and I hear a lot of 'I can't' statements. I think that's our biggest enemy a lot of the time.

it takes time, just keep believing.

Well my motivation was that im already 27 and i want to get on with my life while Im young : ) and time is flying fast. Remember friend no one will do it for You ...
The thing that u are avoiding the stressful situation and leaving them for another day is normal. It's a mechanism in Your mind which is preventing You from putting Your-self in a greater "danger". That why we feel Anxious sometimes, when u want to do something ur subconscious shouts: "no, what are u doing", the way out is to ignore its voice. Its called going outside Your comfort zone. Please keep it in mind that the more u are avoiding the situation the scariest it can get, so change it Today.
Regards,
Tom.
p.s, If You have any questions just ask me : )

Thanks I know what i have to do. That thing about going out of my comfort zone and ignoring the voice makes sense, its just that i sometimes try to do that, but my fear takes over. I just dont feel like i can beat it, even tho i want to so badly.

asking directions is a great first step/...
if u aint confident enought to even do that then get on a bus...train...boat or plane and go somewhere that u will have no choice but to fucking ask directions.
get it...
See once u really need to do something..thats actual motivation...
most people dont realise wanting something bad is not motivation
needing something bad is.
every straigh man wants to fuck hot women...very few manage to fuck one hot woman in their life and most settle for miss adverage..why else do u think most peeps marry at around 25 to 30...cos they think this is the best they can do so they settle.
because thought the desire to fuck hot women is strong the need for it is weak
therefore there is no real motivation to get the job done.
You want a better life...you desire it...but you can manage to exist as you are...you know this so it cancels out any motivation...just like 99 percent of the population. You gotta need something in order to get them motivation to obtain it.

That makes sense. Its just i dont know what i need in order to get motivation, thats where i struggle.

That's gold. Great fuckin commentary

I though i already explained this point...
OK...seeing as your not getting it yet
go and get lost in a dessert..
im pretty sure your gonna get real thirsty...real quick
what you gonna do about that craving for thirst...
sit there and just die?
Or get fucking up and looking for water...
Thats fucking motivation
as the expression goes..sometimes u gotta hit rock bottom before you bounce up again.
wanting shit does not cut it...every fucker wants something...few get what they want
thats because only the very few really feel an absolute need to get what they need, at any cost.
your gonna have to put yourself in a series of situations you dont wanna be in, in order to get yourself motivated to change
i cant tell you what senarios they might be...your gonna have to use your imagination
but one example would be to go on vacation...alone...and you will have to talk to people...you wont have a choice in it.
so if you actualy are serious about moving forward throw the dice.
U now know what to do...so either do it or continue to ask the same bullshit questions, thats how most people on message boards live...or fill their book shefs with a million self help books...
there i told you the key to change your life.
either do it or dont.
no skin of my nose.

in just a few months i changed dramatically so it may take some time

Thanks man. What youve said has actually given me motivation. Now its just a case of throwing myself in these situations where i need to do something, rather than wanting it.

I just did this actually... went on vacation by myself, and I never met so many people is such a short amount of time. It really was a matter of necesity. I wasn't gonna blow my trip by myself in my hotel room. My friend from home said "Why are you going on a trip by yourself, you're gonna be bored".... WRONG. It was truely mostivating, for someone who has been very shy, I met new people every day, random aquaintences, frisendships that continued.

Great advice you gave here. It forces you to start fresh, even take it a step further and move to a new city.