There are two key issues which keep repeatedly getting me into a rut.

1) Firstly it's that both men and women don't respect me enough.

2) Secondly, is that the people I do know are all immature very low status people who hold me back from developing as a person. I myself am not really immature and not completely mature (I'm between the two) so at a stage where I can't fully connect with either of the sets of people. Not that I'd want to bring myself down to connect with immature low status people.

I'm finding it very difficult to make new high status friends particularly since due to lack of respect I feel intimidated (currently) by low status men.

My questions are:

What would you do to help in these areas? Any advice?
AND
How can I meet and make friends with new high status people?

Thank you for any help you can give.

Britton[/b]

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Welcome to the Lions' pit

You're not in-between. You're immature and I applaud your effort to change.

First. Stop diagnosing yourself.
To much muck.

This what you want: Social circle game. Look it up.

This is what you need to understand.

Respect, talent, money, looks... it's all part of the same thing. Efficacy.
"The ability to produce an effect"

It comes in two parts.
Your effect on your social enviroment.
Your social enviroment's effect on you.

And now comes the kicker. They're mutually exclusive.
A man of power and wealth becomes less affected by his surroundings.
In turn people around him allow themselves to be affected by him (more so).
This causes the man to get even less affected.
And so forth.

How?
Simple. It's an unspoken rule of conduct, held up by the masses. The measure by which we subconciously decide another's worth. It's a hack. A rule. Once you get it... you can teach yourself to act accordingly.
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Why do men disrespect you?
You flinch. It's probably a mixture of your replies, face, voice, change of stance, blinking, Avoidance of eye-contact. Some or any of these.

In the animal kingdom... such a flinch would be followed up by physical voilence...

Why do the women disrespect you?
Because you flinch... and O... Because the men disrespect you.

If any of this sounds familiar to you... You know what to do (what to practice)
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Get yourself sorted.

People don't respect you?

-Without knowing you, I will assume
1.) You have low confidence, don't respect yourself and have a weak mind frame
2.) Your crappy self image is seen by people when you interact with them
3.) You allow people's opinion of you to wreak havoc on yourself

People will not give you respect for many reasons. You could be small and weak, low spoken and shy, trying hard to impress.... without knowing you on a personal basis no one can tell you why this is happening. You can PM me if you want some more info. I recommend 77 Laws of Success by David DeAngelo as a building block for self esteem plus there are thousand of books to teach you how.

I believe there is a saying "you are the company you keep". To fix this, I would advise you to find hobbies you like and go join organizations, sport teams, hobby groups... By doing these things, you will gain confidence, gain social experience and most likely meet new friends. High status people hang out with high status people. Not sure how you find them. Basically get out there and be social and meet alot of people.


EDIT: Above poster has excellent detailed points

man, you've got so many negative thought patterns.

People do respect you, dont analyse yourself so much "im more mature/not mature" or whatever the fuck. What you've got to know is that your shaping your reality through your perception.

your thinking "people dont respect me" and so are acting in ways to make it so and noticing only things which support this.

think positive, focus on the positive in the past, present and future. Your the man, your the don, your a great fun guy. i mean, you've already made and effort to change and become who you want to be, thats cool.

so chill the fuck out and relax, your already great, just keep carrying on taking action and working towards what you want bro

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Nathan Griffin

Thank you everyone for your advice.

I've been looking for things for social circle game and I have found limited material.

If you could suggest anything that would be fantastic.

Thank you, you've already helped so much.

Britton

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Welcome to the Lions' pit

Join some local clubs and associations to try out some new and interesting things. There's often a great sense of camaraderie and respect between members of these groups. It's a great way to meet and connect quickly with new people and improve your social skills and social standing.

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My experience is that if people don't respect you, it probably means you don't respect yourself either. If you want people to respect you, start by respecting yourself and being proud of who you are.

This is what help me to become respected:
1. Respect your-self, which means always and i say always stood up to people who are treating you badly even if its the CEO of some company. It happened to me that he was shouting with no special reason. So I told him: Dont shout on my please, I respect You why don't You respect me? he just went silent.
2. Please think positively about Yourself, u should learn how to be happy with Your life before You go out to Clubs.
3. write a diary of Your achievements, even if You just stood up to someone or found a better job
Tell me what do You mean high status people? like Rich and Influential?
As always If You have any questions, don't hesitate to contact me.
Tom.

You want good answers....OK
respect. what does that mean to you?
To me a good way to look at respect is to look at who people respect...and why.
well high achievers get respect..like sportsmen etc.
are you a high achiever? If not can you become one in any field...
A man can become a high achiever at anything, not just a sport, so whatever you find interesting in life, maybe its martial arts or maybe its painting or even dancing or acting...I dunno it could be anything. Well dedicate yourself to your passion and you will become good at it and be seen as a high achiever in that area. trust me, this brings the respect of others.
If you do nothing with our life at all people see you as low value and you see yourself as disrespected by others.
I know all about it.
you can even become a high achiever with pick up and gain respect in that area...
This is my advice anyhow.
Oh and I also wanna point out...its not that you need to be the worlds best at anything its that you get involved in your passion...even the fact that your making an effort will attract respect from others...trust me. and to get maximum respect is when you master your chosen passion. because people admire the ones who can do the things they cannot do. why else do u think all these mpua's get a lot of respect...not from me...but from the ones who cant pick up women. see what i mean.

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