| Guys, it seems that pickup is one of the only way to meet people that have an open eye to seeing reality, the way it really is. That's why I'm asking this question here. I'd love to be able to contribute more. I'm really in the learning process still. I usually get the best answers in pua types of forums.
I want to know where to go with meeting girls and being social.
Over the past year, I've lost it all. I have no money now, two side jobs that are barely holding me up. My personal expenses are way over what I'm bringing in. Before that, I've spent the last 10 years just working to make it, several jobs.
I have a few new shirts my mom bought me last year but I've not bought new clothes in literally years.
I don't get out there and be social, and I want to find out your opinions on how. I'm living with my mother, and I was married for 4 years too. She was clingy and a very insecure former hardcore party type of girl to give you an idea. She was looking for a savior or something because I'd always been the "good guy".
I grew up poor, and then just started working because I wanted to make something of myself.
In the back of my mind, it's like I just think if I start working real hard again, I'll end up saving only to have more expenses to arise. I really am a hard worker.
In the mean time, I don't want to have to tell a decent girl about my current circumstance. I do want a girl that values herself.
And this sounds strange maybe I know, but I am not attracted to many girls. I posted a similar question in another forum and the guy made a good point that having standards is a good thing.
I would like to be meeting girls that have some intellectual side to them. I can't stand talking to a girl only to have her say, well I don't understand what you mean, but it sounds cool and I trust you!
And because I worked so much I never got out there to meet girls. I literally don't like bars and clubs because I have been there quite a few times.
And I want to be able to talk to girls and people normally. I just don't have much to say to people. When I am in social situations, I do find myself not talking. I'm just bored because it's usually at someone's house where they're all just standing around playing beer pong and gossiping. That's their life, work all week, party on the weekend. Just not my thing. If that's what they like to do that's ok, just not my thing.
People have told me that they think I'm weird. Other people ask if I'm gay, just because I don't have desires to talk to just any girl.
Dang, I know that's a lot. I posted a similar post on another forum but I wanted to see what you guys here think. I appreciate your time in reading this.
I'm still wandering how to get social and start conversations and all.
Thanks.
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