Hey guys,

I went out yesterday to a local club and i was standing at the same place for like two/three hours. All the sudden there was this HB10, at the beginning I wasn't paying much attention to her. But after a while I saw her looking at me, she looked at me ocassionaly for 10 minutes and at that point she came closer, she almost put her ass against my body. After like 3 minutes another guy grabs her from behind and she looks angry at him and immediately looks to me, as in don't worry, I don't like that guy. She kind of offered herself to me for like 30 minutes before another guy started talking to her, but even while she was talking with that guy she kept looking at me. In the whole time that she was standing in front of me, there were like three good situations to open a conversation, but I froze.

This really sucks and I'm really disappointed in myself, becauce this was a golden opportunity! I have been reading and listening to the "Modern Man" programs and I have read a few ebooks. When I am at home I feel confident and just before I go out, I have the feeling that I can and will speak to women that evening.

Do you guys have any motivational lines or stories, where I can think of if this situation reoccurs. And do you guys have recommendations for a ebook, audio, or videoprogram to get rid of this AA?

Thnx in advance!

Thundercat's Art of Approaching is a great guide you could probably use. If I remember correctly there's quite a bit in there about approach anxiety.

But dude! If she was throwing herself at you, you should have just gone for it, obviously she was interested and giving you the opportunity, so your game is halfway done. She was attracted, you just needed to chat her up a little bit and escalate.

Really, the only way to deal with stuff like this is to just say "Fuck it, I'm nervous as hell, and I may mess up, but at least I'm trying." The worst that could happen is rejection, which is really no big deal. There's always other girls out there.

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I will check out the guide you recommended.

Yeah i know, i'm still feeling very disappointed right now in myself. She was such a nice girl, but yeah i fucked up! And now I know how bad it feels to not approach, i was just thinking by myself. What do I prefer: the feeling I have now and thus do not approach her, or the feeling that i got rejected. I prefer the feeling of being rejected in the worst way above the feeling I feel now.

I really hope that I can fix this problem in my life.

Thanks for you input sparroww

No problem. Believe me, we've all been there. Approach anxiety hits everyone at times.

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