Ok guys, hows it going. Im excited for this post, I feel its the first bit of useful information I have added to this forum, asides from my own ramblings and whatnot at me trying to figure this stuff out in general.

Yesterday, I went to town as normal. I had done this many times before and approached on quite a few occasions. however, today, just like many more occasions, I felt much more higher AA and general just being out of state in any social situation. It was then that I identified one of my limiting beliefs, it was obvious that I felt what I was doing was "low-value" or loserish, like I was always scared of being found out for trying to meet new girls.

Now, doing something you want to do that is a little bit scary most if not all of us can deal with - as long as we dont see it as taking value away from us.
Similarly, if something feels good in the moment, even if it would take value from us, we may do it (hooking up with ugly chicks?)
However, doing something thats a little bit scary and would take value away? not gunna happen guys, its why you get to the point where no matter how hard you try, you "just cant" approach.

SO, for the actual meat and gravy of the post. IF YOU DONT WANT TO READ ABOVE JUST READ THIS:


Reasons why approaching hot girls when out alone is a high value thing:

- Being out alone shows you dont need your friends for a social crutch, you can go out and be fun and happy all by yourself.

- When you see a hot girl, whereas most would simply go oh shes hot I wish I could have her, you go for what you want and know theres no reason why you shouldnt have it.

-by going upto and talking to her, your showing just how UN-INTIMIDATED you are from her, and how your value is equal to hers not below.

- girls do not dress up and look nice. by approaching her your showing her you understand societys biggest secret. girls like sex thus want to be approached.

learn this, understand it, believe it. Then when you go out, just think "Yes, I am going out just to meet new hot girls, yes I am, because I go for what I want and Im not intimidated by girls, theyre just girls"

and I know we are all a little intimidated, but just "fake it till you make it here" and act as though your not. soon you wont be

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I refuse to let fear be a problem

Id rather die on my feet than live on my knees

Yeah nice post man!

I must say that when you open a (hot) girl, she will know that you are trying to game her, unless you ask indirect questions in a random moment.
That is why I hate picking up girls random, they always assume they're being picked up... which is mostly true. The important thing is that you believe that you can pick them up, BECAUSE YOU CAN (at least try!).

I read about wearing a rubber band around your wrist, and when you see a girl, you flick the band against your wrist and you become IN-ZONE, ready to pick up everybody's mom!

Well I hoped that after this post I talked AA out of myself, but nope, too bad.

More tips welcome!

hey man yeah course they'll probs know, but the point is you gotta know that trying to chat them up is a cool, high value thing to do. In everyones eyes but especially yours.

I mean, honestly what would you think if you saw a really hot girl in the street and thought dam id like to tap that, then some randomer walks up to her and starts a conversation.

Sure to your friends you might say ahh whats he doing etc (even though most would just assume you knew her or not notice at all) but deep down, you'd think, dam that guys got balls, I wish I could go for what I want like that!

remember, you approach women in any situation cos you go for what you want and your not intimidated by them.

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I refuse to let fear be a problem

Id rather die on my feet than live on my knees

This is so true. Gotta start following it more. Every time I've seen someone approach, no matter how bad, I've always admired his courage to do so. Even though we all make fun of him. It's just a loser attempt to raise our own value.

I think the core of the message is if anyone trys to knock you down for doing something brave, they're really just imitmidated that you did what they couldn't.

Good post, inspiring stuff! Just replying so I can come back to this in the future!

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Your not getting rejected, you seeing if she has good taste.

Big thanks to you! I've never seen picking up girls with these eyes

I actually realized something else when reading this. My first post by the way, hi guys.

I figured that if you can think away all the other people in the environment, and just imagine there's only you, and the girl you're thinking about approaching, doesn't this make you feel a lot more relaxed and a lot more like it's the right thing to do?

I mean, if you're in some location, and there's no one else, except the two of you, doesn't it make sense in a way to get in touch? It's like the day after the apocalypse, and only you two survived.

Greg...so true and I think she will feel It In your vibe when you act like your the only two there. She will feel that missing connection ya know? I think another good way is to just talk to everyone...e...v.e...r..one. guys and girls alike.. this will get you to share a laugh ...find commonalities...all things great for loosening up.

P.s. love this tag :Id rather die on my feet than live on my knees...(sorry brah I gotta steal that and post it on Facebook)