I am by no means a master pick up artists, but I can find women, sleep with them and move forward, that being said Im still lonely. I still want to find a woman that I can hold a relationship with, but when I try for that the women always seem to bale. I feel like all im literally good for is sex. What can I do to change this? am I missing something about myself?

Heck alot of times I find it hard to even make friends, I cant seem to find that feel good feeling that I have something to contribute, plus I have alot of trust issues, and things of that nature.

-Shade

Finding a gf is relatively easy these days. Just hop online -- you don't have to strike up a conversation in a bar or bookstore -- there are thousands of women just waiting for someone like you to email them.

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If you're here, then your parents and grandparents were able to do it...and the whole finding relationship so much easier with modern technology.

Change up the way you approach. Be direct with them and determine the relationship you want with them.

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I don't really think that the replies you got here were very helpful, basically these guys were saying "it's easy, just go online to find a girlfriend" and "if your parents could do it, you can!"

I'm no master pickup artist myself so take my opinion with a grain of salt, but I'm pretty sure there's something you're doing wrong and you're just not realising it yourself. So you are able to strike up conversation and escalate and even get laid, right? So there's plenty that you're doing right. You yourself admitted that you have some trust issues, that's totally one thing that can damage a relationship fast, so that's really something you need to work through. Also, I'm just going out on a limb here, but are you possibly too needy? Not needy for sex or anything like that, but a lot of guys I think are being a bit self-centered and looking to please themselves instead of trying to make the girl have a good time (which will result in you having a good time too). Especially with the trust issues you mentioned, maybe you're being too analytical of the interaction while you're in it and considering yourself too much, not her and you guys together – am I totally off track here?

Just thought I'd try and contribute my two cents.
Good luck and sarge on!

Annihilation

Would you "hang out" with you? If you knew a guy just like you. Would you go out of the way to call him up to hang out this weekend? Who are the types of people you would put in this category?

Hi Shade,

To get into a meaningful relationship you need to know a kind of girl you are looking for. So get a pen and paper and describe your perfect girl. Aim for 50 bullet points, if you get that with ease, go for 30 more (be as specific as you can). Star your "must haves."
Then describe a man that kind of woman would want. That should be a great starting point.

Al

shade224,

I agree with afcal. You also need to do some soul searching, and ask yourself what is it that can help you to attain fulfillment in life. Perhaps the answer is not from outside, but it is from inside.

To many successful people, they can find fulfillment when they contribute or add value to other people's life. This type of people are a giver. When I say, you have to be a giver, I don't mean you have to give money. You can give information, help or your time away. This not just help you to do well in life, but it also helps you to become much more attractive to the opposite sex. This is because only a high value guy who have a mindset of abundance can give in such a way.

Beside that, being an unconditional giver is good for networking, and therefore, you will be able to expand your social circle and people will remember you well.