Anxiety can wreck your game. Here's something I've learned over the past few years that seems to work fairly well in a club or event environment. (I have very little to no AA, and still use this because of its effectiveness in an environment.) A lot of times, chicks are busy talking to their friends or doing other shit that would make it seem rude to interrupt with a full-blown opener, and hovering around for an opportunity to do so is weak.

Make your approach, and as confidently as you can, open the set very simply. A very brief opener is sufficient at this point (something that communicates "I noticed you. Hello."). Don't run off, but don't look like you're going to stick around either. Think of this encounter like you would running into someone you knew from a few years back, but didn't really become friends. (False Time Constraint, for those who use the terminology.)

Take notice of their body language. Best case scenario, they stop to talk; worst case, they totally ignore you. No matter how they react, it's extremely important to not take it personally - they could be talking about their family member in the hospital for all you know. If they're really engaged in conversation, what will most likely happen is that they will politely acknowledge you, but expect you to either wait your turn (beta as fuck) or leave and never return (also beta as fuck). You will do neither.

What you will do is put this set in stasis, and open others. You might say something like, "Anyway, gotta meet some friends, see you later!" You are walking into the set with the idea that you are merely announcing your presence and mild interest. Don't venture very far away to open new sets. In a smaller bar, this isn't much of a problem, but at a concert or large club, you may not see this person again. With a wingman, figure out a plan to open sets simultaneously while avoiding the same sets.

Oh, and remember not to only open girl-only sets, but talk to EVERYBODY. It helps you not gain 'strikes' being labeled as a PUA. Hell, even talk to dudes without chicks. You give off the outward appearance of being very social this way.

People move around in clubs, bars, and social events; they go to the bathroom, they go to the bar, they walk around and mingle. The point is, you're probably going to run into this person again, and most likely, they're not going to be engaged in conversation. This is the "Oh, hi again" situation. Blame them for following you around, do whatever it is you do, but you will absolutely notice that you are nowhere near as anxious as you were on the first approach. It's important here that you maintain your initial confidence level or portray a higher one. The best part about this is, now that the initial AA is gone, this shouldn't be an issue.



When done effectively, you can chill at the bar later, chatting up people around you or your wingman, and those whom you opened earlier will reapproach you.

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