| Some tips for starters:
1. When you get into the journey of PUA, you will have to realize that you will get rejected a lot. No way will you be able to get every girl you approach. But the more you get rejected, the less you will care when it happens.
2. Best way to start is daygame. Most practical way to do this is by starting doing easy approaches. You start by asking for the time or directions. If you can't approach hot women, approach ugly women. If you can't approach women, approach men. If you are not capable of approaching men, then you have a severe issue and I don't know how to help you.
3. Gradually make the tasks more difficult day by day: day 1, 3 men; day 2, 6 men; day 3, 5 men and 1 ugly woman; day 4, 3 ugly women, ... untill you get to the point where you can approach hot women direct.
4. All these approaches from step 3 will make your confidence grow. However, reading it behind a computer and actually doing this infield is huge difference. When you are infield you will feel nervouss, scared, you will be sweating, ... This could lead you to not completing the approaches you wanted to make. And if you don't make the approaches, your social confidence will not raise. So it is very important that you make the approaches you planned.
5. One way to make life easier for you, is the concept of acceptance. You know that when you approach a woman, you will feel nervous or shy or whatever. It is very important that you don't fight this feeling. This feeling is the result of a thought you have in your mind. But in the end it is just a thought. Don't try to change that thought; don't try to fight it; just accept that it is there. Don't try to fight your nervousness when you approach a woman; just be OK with the nervousness. It is normal to be nervous. it makes you a normal human being. If she sees that you are nervous ... that is OK ... let her see it; it doesn't matter that she sees this. --> For me, this was maybe the most important concept. Because if you fight your nervousness and negative beliefs, you will get into a viscious circle that empowers your negative feelins until you get to the point where anxiety is that big that you simply can't approach anymore.
OK, guys, I hope these guides will help you into building more confidence.
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