Recently I'm traveling in Japan. The situation is that I came to Japan alone and I have no friends here so I pretty much have to rely on metting people in hostels. People comes and goes. Sometimes I have company sometimes I don't. What I realized is that generally things go much much easier when I have company. Not necessary a wingman. when I hang with a buddy I can easily approach open and run game smoothly. Prob having someone to hang with me helps me to lose myself abit. But when I go to bar alone I always feel not so confident and can't really run a decent game. I guess when people are alone in pubs tey always look like a wiredo. especially when people are in a foreign country. But sometimes it's just not so easy to find someone to hang with you. Im not really a shy person but just found things are much harder when im alone.  So any suggestion?


   

Take some time to think about the idea that this "when people are alone in pubs they always look like a weirdo" thing is completely in your head. I have been struggling with the same ideas when I go out alone. You see everyone else and everyone is in their own little groups. You feel different. Your brain uses this as an excuse not to approach "they will think i'm a weirdo because i'm not in a group like them".

Different is good though! Being alone is only a bad thing if you THINK it is bad. I have noticed that times when I'm able to throw out the "I have to be with someone" mentality, bam! nothing is weird! I walk in talking from the start and wind up meeting many more people than I do when I'm someone. Also, some girls are more at ease if they see only one guy coming their way instead of two. If someone asks if you're here alone, just say "Yeah, I came out to explore".

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Trust me, I know where you are coming from. But think about it this way, why are you alone? You shouldn't be. If you go out solo sarging you should be talking to sets. If you get blown out, find another set! Stay engaged with the crowd and keep talking to people, girls OR guys.

I agree that it can be awkward when they ask if you are alone or what you are doing there. It's DLV for someone to go out to a social environment by themselves, I don't care what anyone says. Because it makes you seem like not only could you not find a date, but you don't even have a buddy who is willing to hang out with you.

I usually just say I'm meeting friends later or that I was with someone whose gone off to do something elsewhere.

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