So I was at yoga today and there was this hot blonde that I wanted to go talk to. She came in just after class started and I thought I'd just do my yoga and talk to her after class. I wasn't stressing about it at all, actually felt pretty confident (was going to playfully tease her about her yoga mat... it had turkeys on it) up until I started to approach her. Then I got struck with AA. All sorts of negative thoughts started bouncing through my head "I'll come off way too cocky" "No way is this going to work" "I'm going to look like a dumbass." So I didn't end up saying anything to her.
Anyways, I was surprised at my thoughts before approaching (as it hit me so suddenly), so I thought I'd bring it up here. I think the best way to overcome this is to muster my courage and approach anyways in the future (which I intend to do), but here are my questions:
What can I do at home to lessen my AA and change these negative thoughts/limiting beliefs (affirmations/guided imagery etc...)?
What can I do in the moment to shut off this negative thinking pattern?
What tricks can I use to get myself to approach even if I am feeling anxiety?
Any help would be greatly appreciated.

I feel you man, I am in trouble myself, especially to these day light situations. I know you are supposed to apply 3 second rule and apply direct game for during the day, but i don't have enough courage to accomplish either. I did read in some NLP book that it is good to think about a time when you felt really amazing, like winning a sports game, having the best night of your life, or stuff like that, just before you go in to talk to a girl. I wish I can provide more concrete answer but I am working this stuff out myself.

Hey,

Sorry to here your dilema. What Im pissed off about is where are the so-called guys here to help you? All the PUA's out there who dont help guys like you with advice, whats the point in being on here if they dont reply.

I'd help mate, but Im in a similar situation.

good point. Well regardless of wether you post on here or not, PUA is a learning process. dont expect people to help you. Think of this forum as a information database rather than a teaching media. you get much more out of it that way.

True, I did see the answers to his original post in another section so you're right... Read around buddy and you'll find your answers. I said hi to one girl today, made a real effort with the girl who works in the clothes shop got her to come to the changing room to get her opinion and had a few jokes shared...so this site gives you tools, we just need to learn and work them. Before I wouldnt have even bothered doing what I did today. It's all practice.

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Alright it sounds like you are exactly the way I used to be.

Its all ABOUT MINDSET. LOL didnt even mean to do caps there but it fit nicely.

Essentially you care too much about the outcome. The smarter guys like us tend to over analyze things before they even happen.

PU is like any learned skill. It does not not know how much you know about it if you have never practiced it. Someone may have studied how to do a bunch of insane tricks on a bike, but if they have never actually ridden one their first time is gonna suck. But practice makes Perfect!

All this goes to say...

Just remember ,you are the shit, Alpha of all Alphas, and it really doesnt matter how she reacts b/c you come from such a place of abundance.

As far as approaching goes, see my topic about STATE.