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 Post subject: Friend Problems
PostPosted: Sun May 06, 2012 4:16 am 
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Oh boy, I can't believe Im writing this at pua site but what the fuck, maybe you guys have some insight.

Firstly, I just want to state you all are going to think Im fucking 12 or a fucking pussy or both. Also if you can recommand a good therapist that would greatly appreciated :lol:

I've been suffering from generalized anxiety for about a year now to the extent that the physical symptoms are becoming too harmful for me to bare. I don't know how this started because I'm a bit of hypochondriac but I think a major life style change is the main reason.

After completing high school, I began retreating to myself as I really had no direction on where I wanted to go with my life. This was a bad move, I began to lose my friends and I had no intention of going to pick up girls with them as my confidence was shot. They began to change and each one slowly abandoned me. Not to say I didn't do anything to deserve it, I had always been the prankster in the group and I pulled harmless jokes on them. Needless to say, one day suddenly everyone matured and they stop replying to my text messages. So I said fuck why have a cellphone if I have anyone to text now.

Two years later...

I've been trying to get back with my high school group and I've had some process getting back with my "best" friend in the group. But I can't fucking get him to invite me to shit he's been brainwashed to by the rest of them. So my question is how do I get back into the group?

If you answer is "they moved on, you need to move on." My response is I can't be at peace with this until I make amends with them, I'm kinda of a Buddhist, and this shit is cramping my style.

All I need is one day when I can make amends and know that the "ball" figuratively speaking is in their court.

I'm really sorry that this has nothing to do with picking up women, but I feel before I can even think about getting laid again I need to come to peace with my anxiety and "know every little thing is going to be all right."

If anyone has an advice and seductive techniques to get in, I would greatly appreciate it.

I'm not a homo, or a psycho, or both...

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 Post subject: Re: Friend Problems
PostPosted: Sun May 06, 2012 4:46 am 
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If anyone has an advice and seductive techniques to get in, I would greatly appreciate it.
Why do you wait for them to invite you when you have retreated yourself at your own leisure... just throw a party or invite them when going for some fun event. If you think it would turn ugly if no-one shows up then make a new small group of frens. this way you wont feel that bad wen a few of your frens dont show up. And unless you did something terribly wrong, this all obviously is just in your head. Its impossible to reconnect with somebody in an instant if you have been out of touch for 2 years. It takes a little time to build up the same comfort amongst. And, its foolish to imagine that they would all become your fans in the first party. When you ll invite that one frend, then he would invite others in your group and in this way, GRADUALLY you would be reconnecting with them. Its a slow process that has to go naturally.
And, get some more frens and then try to merge them together in some party, so none of you all feel bad if things turn out different.

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PostPosted: Mon May 07, 2012 4:44 am 
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I'm a psychology/sociology major and here are some things i picked up on that im going to talk to you about:

"going to think Im fucking 12 or a fucking pussy or both"

"no intention of going to pick up girls with them"

"Needless to say, one day suddenly everyone matured and they stop replying to my text messages."

Before I answer any of this put your EGO aside and just read, and consider yourself lucky because this advice is fucking priceless and you better make good use out of it or you continue living a lame life.

-Who gives a fuck what the PUA community or your friends think about you. Don't let people's opinions of you run your life and get into your head. Don't change for fucking anyone but yourself bro. Ultimately if you keep letting this happen, you give them control over you and you want the control to be either equal or you have slightly more then them. Why do you want control in social dynamics because it gives you power and confidence bro and a girl can sense that. Its all un-conscious messages that yur projecting to others.
Just like me 2 years ago, you think your a pussy. Now if you view yourself as a pussy that is a belief of yours and trust me its so noticable through your body language, posture and basically everything. Remember this is only hurting you. What you need to do is start believing that you are a beautiful person and a clear and confident man. You are probably thinking how the fuck can i do this. You have to change your thought process and you have to repeat these statements 1,000s of times. There is no shame in this, at first you probably won't believe it but after a couple of weeks when I started to do this. The stuff that I was saying started to become true. BEFORE YOU CAN GO OUT AND MAKE MORE FRIENDS AND FUCK BITCHES OR GET A GIRLFRIEND YOU HAVE TO LOVE YOURSELF, i cant stress this enough its HUGE.

I want you to go up to a mirror in your bathroom and repeat these lines outloud or in your head for 15 MINUTES A DAY. you'll feel so much better and get a feeling of euphoria because each sentance your becoming 1 step closer to attracting more QUALITY friends and women in your life.

I'm a clear and confident man.
Women love me.
I love women,
I deserve beautiful women in my life.
I am a sexually desirable man,
Women want to fuck me everywhere I go
My affirmations work for me wheter I believe them or not.
I am real.
I am authentic.
I'm a beautiful person.
Talking to women is just like talking to a good friend
Women love being around me.
Its ok.
Its ok to be a little selfish sometimes.
I project confidence everywhere I go.

-Also try meditating helps with anxiety and helps you live in the moment.
-Do some type of workout gym, running, push ups at home w.e

You will feel like a completely new person after a week, I've been doing it for 4 months and my improvements are just WOW.
NOW LISTEN YOU HAVE TO DO THIS EVERY FUCKEN DAY OF YOUR LIFE for 15 MINS MINIMUM, sometimes I DO THEM FOR AN HOUR and listen to it on my ipod.


I hope I didnt waste my time typing this shit and you dont put it to use, please respond back and let me kno how your doing and if yu want advice on some other shit.


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 Post subject: I like it
PostPosted: Tue May 08, 2012 10:58 am 
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I think everything will be okay!


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 Post subject: I like it
PostPosted: Tue May 08, 2012 11:04 am 
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I think you must bу honest with him


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