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OK, thanks for the help. But how could i hold myself not to cum too fast? Should i change positions more often, should i imagine something that doesnt turn me on, something ugly :lol: If i dont masturbate for months, will i last longer?
I don't masturbate at all. Then again I have two girlfriends. If I don't wanna cum, I just tell her to "Slow down baby." If you have good communication then she should understand. Other then that I heard somewhere that clinching your butt cheeks works. However I never did this one... Best of luck with your issue.

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I also do not masturbate, i think that will help me last longer. But i also heard that masturbation during the day will help you last longer with a girl at night. Not really sure about it. :?
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There's a thread I started over in PUA lounge which might give you an idea of how likely you are to have various problems. It's called "the first time I got naked with a girl I..."

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"I don't go all the way on the first night, but me and my tongue will make you cum so hard that you'll forget your name"

In order for this to work, do some reading; you need to be able to give her at least one real orgasm. After that, you're basically free to mess up all you want as you've got her off at least once.
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Ive been there, not only my first time, but also my first times with a new girl.

But the guy from above gave you the best advice ever; you see, if she doesnt do some kind of work, you wont be comfortable.
If she does not makes you comfortable around her bed, why would you fuck her in the first place?

Have a you being the price mentality, if she doesnt make something to please you, send her to fuck off. Or someone else :P

Man, no worrys on the subject, youll fuck the girl that suits you and it will be epic.
Words of wisdom brother. I used to be really nervous for the first time with a girl, even had issues getting it up. Now, if I'm not feeling aroused, I just take her hand and put it down there. Foreplay's gotta be mutual baby
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I waited too long for it m8. Just get it over with, it's gonna suck ballz. I couldn't come at all the 1st 4times. just something u gotta get done!
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There's a thread I started over in PUA lounge which might give you an idea of how likely you are to have various problems. It's called "the first time I got naked with a girl I..."

One work around:
"I don't go all the way on the first night, but me and my tongue will make you cum so hard that you'll forget your name"

In order for this to work, do some reading; you need to be able to give her at least one real orgasm. After that, you're basically free to mess up all you want as you've got her off at least once.

The problem with this is not all girls can be gone down on.......unless they get tested, but if its a hookup, i don't think so.
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Cha - Bra is spot on and me as well my first time was less than steller. Only advice I have is that if its not something you care about being special do it with someone whom you dont really care what they think about you afterwards. Its kind of like a warm up set before a real pick up . Relax and take your time lots of foreplay is key . I cant emphisize that enough . Lots of fore play then go down on her that way it will extend your sexual time and help you get her off or stimulate her longer in case you blow your load quick like .
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So here's the thing, I'm 19 years old, haven't had sex yet, although I have had some opportunities. I have had some problems with anxiety, and I'm nervous about that I will not perform, especially if it will be with the girl I like very much, I'm afraid it will be a complete embarrasment, and this is kind of hindering me to take the next step.

Any pointers from you about having sex for the first time and beat the anxiety, this has really been getting me down lately :/
If any guy, no matter how 'alpha', tells you they weren't nervous the first time they got a piece, they're either lying or have brain damage. Period.

And trust me, It'll go away somewhere in between lay #25 to 50.

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I still get nervous sleeping with a new partner, I've slept with 12 women now which is lower than a lot of guys on here but I've had a lot of sex with them since I don't often do one night stands. I've got a pretty much guaranteed lay next week and yeah, part of me will be nervous it's ok to be.
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I still get nervous sleeping with a new partner, I've slept with 12 women now which is lower than a lot of guys on here but I've had a lot of sex with them since I don't often do one night stands. I've got a pretty much guaranteed lay next week and yeah, part of me will be nervous it's ok to be.
You should read Mantak Chia and Douglas Abram "Multi orgasmic man"
and many similiar titles by Mantak Chia on taoist teachings.If you can just master
being multi orgasmic you will be in high demand. :wink: You will be in a win win
situation for you and your partner.

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I still get nervous sleeping with a new partner, I've slept with 12 women now which is lower than a lot of guys on here but I've had a lot of sex with them since I don't often do one night stands. I've got a pretty much guaranteed lay next week and yeah, part of me will be nervous it's ok to be.
You should read Mantak Chia and Douglas Abram "Multi orgasmic man"
and many similiar titles by Mantak Chia on taoist teachings.If you can just master
being multi orgasmic you will be in high demand. :wink: You will be in a win win
situation for you and your partner.

This works for a virgin?
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Well i need to ask all of you, how long did your first sex last? 5, 10, 15 minutes, or more?
I didn't eat for 72 hours straight once. Hope that helps.

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