Im guessing everyone will be different but how many times will you have to 1. approach a girl before AA is gone? and 2. How many nights sarging alone before you get used to it.

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You just need the right mindset. Approaching with low self esteem is an aproach, but it will do you little good. As for the approaching alone, it just takes a little success. Do some pregame that sikes you up and gets you pumped. Chant some mantras that are spacific about how awsome you are. But you are on the right track if you are approaching. Now fine tune at the end of the night. Disect what went wrong and right. Soon you will be great and have game that works and does not feel akward. If you feel akward so will she.

I been thinking the same thing for some time now. It's difficult deciding you want to improve with women, then reading lots of info and suddenly realising that you finally "get it" only to find yourself going out every weekend and not even starting conversations because of the anxiety.

Anxiety is everywhere. Jobs, gf's, people's expectations of you. It's not just AA.
I'm suffering from this aswell, and I have no AA. I have it in many other area's while people think i'm the most cool and chill guy out there. Sometimes i'm really dying inside. I feel like if you want to overcome anxiety is to give in to it. talk to people you are afraid to do shit :p and do it anyway. botteling up is the cause of anxiety i feel. Grrr!

I have approached alot, can't even count sets. Also, sarged for 6 to 7 months straight alone because I didn't have any friends.

My AA is virtually gone. What really made it go away was just having confidence without trying to be confident, and I enjoy talking to women.

I just replied to somebody who asked a similar question.
AA is never really "gone", neither is public speaking or a sales pitch.
what makes the difference is the skill for you to face this anxiety and how many times you do it untill you understand that nothing bad is going to happen to you, that the sky is not going to fall, that nothing can really stop you and then you just continue.

the best parts are when you realize that you don't have to be a perfect 100% every time you do something, and then you really get this emotional freedom to handle the anxiety.

hope this helps

this is true, its hard to determine when its gone ... one good indicator is when you dont/ cant even think of the AA. this is a strange goal we all have here on the forum, because there is no real indicator of sucess only an altered mind set which is not something physical we can see or touch. what i do to help bring up my self esteem and i will begin to start using to help with AA is snapping rubber bands on my wrists. everytime i tihnk something negaive about myslef or others/ say to myself i will talk to this girl at the bar, then try back out, i snap the rbber band.. ive been doing this for about a month now, and i have to say it does work to some extent, and you can make progress WHILE still being aware of the issues that lurk deep into the mind

this is true, its hard to determine when its gone ... one good indicator is when you dont/ cant even think of the AA. this is a strange goal we all have here on the forum, because there is no real indicator of sucess only an altered mind set which is not something physical we can see or touch. what i do to help bring up my self esteem and i will begin to start using to help with AA is snapping rubber bands on my wrists. everytime i tihnk something negaive about myslef or others/ say to myself i will talk to this girl at the bar, then try back out, i snap the rbber band.. ive been doing this for about a month now, and i have to say it does work to some extent, and you can make progress WHILE still being aware of the issues that lurk deep into the mind