Hmmm getting over my fear to approaching women...I haven't. That fear will always be there, the important thing is how you deal with fear. Do you run or do you embrace it and walk into the lion's den? I always have fear before an approach, I've come to terms that it'll always be there, the main thing is for it to not overcome you and make you avoid the approach.

My way of being able to deal with it isn't recommended by the "Gurus" of pick up but it worked for me and if it's not broken, why fix it?

I used to hit the clubs with my buddies and get drunk. Of course that gave me temporary confidence and I was able to approach chicks and make out and do well. The next morning when my head had cleared, I began to rationalize things about what I really did.

I believe alcohol takes shy guys like us and puts us into temporary alpha mode. You don't really care about anything and approaching is easy as hell. I began to tell myself things like "I did it, I approached a girl, I know what it's like."

I would go out again but this time drunk slightly less and this time had more of my wits with me and I was able to think a lot more clearly and push out my routines with ease.

I kept doing this until I could do all of this 100% sober. Took a while but I feel great right now. Yeah it wasn't the way I had intended to go about it either but it worked for me.

What did you do to overcome your fear?

Thanks. I didn't overcome my fear. I still have huge problem to approach. I only managed to overcome my fears once in a while very temporarily. The best time was when I approach indirect 3 days in a row. The last day I felt vey confident about approaching. But I stopped approaching and lost confidence again. I should be consistent with it for a very long timespan. As many people say ... pua is not something you do on saturday. It is a lifestyle. You have to be doing it every day in the week. And it is this consistency that I have always lacked. But I am planning to do something about it ... starting tomorrow.

You shouldn't make this your life, you should incorporate it and make it part of your life and it should be there as if it is non-existent.

Since I discovered this stuff a few years back, my mindset has been ever changing about how to deal with it. It isn't about memorizing routines and then delivering them like a bad actor, it's your inner game which matters the most. Once your inner beliefs and your inner voice is altered, everything becomes easy.

Our inner voice naturally talks negative to us. Such as when we are about to approach, the voice says things like "I'm fucking scared", "Damn she's way too hot" or anything giving you a reason not to approach. Our mind will come up with a million reasons to not do something because it is naturally protecting us. We don't want to be nervous, anxious or scared. That's why the mind always tries to talk us out of doing something scary. We fear rejection and are so worried about whether the girl will like us or not.

Sorry if I'm rambling but I'm just shooting out all the psychology on the subject. Inner game is most important, nail that and the rest falls into place.

I used to have the same problem when I first started out. My solution is right when you see a cute girl, clear your mind, and repeat in your head DONT THINK JUST DO, DONT THINK JUST DO, DONT THINK JUST DO. Try to block everything else out but those words. Your basically trying to get rid of any negative thoughts/feelings that creep up between the moment you see her to the moment you approach. After a while you slowly lose your fear and eventually all you have to do is clear your mind and approach.

This helped me when I started to ski black diamond hills to whenever I kill centipedes.

YMMV

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That is where the 3 second rule becomes so crucial, it really is underestimated. I used to think it was a load of garbage when I first started out. I thought that I need to get my gameplan down first and know everything I'm going to say before the approach, this is right to some extent but not to the stage of overthinking it and fucking up.

When you approach within 3 seconds of spotting a girl, your mind doesn't have time to convince you to back out of it. Also your approach comes out a lot more natural than it would if you approached 3 minutes later after rehearsing your lines etc.

3 seconds is a very long time. It is misleading.

If u want to reduce AA. Then give urself, Zero seconds.

Or give ur friend 20 pounds and get 1 pound for each set.

Even after doing 100 sets in one night. I still got AA the next day. The only guy I know who has zero AA is Romeo. His a sort of natural. Watching him made me introduce the zero second rule.

Everyone has AA, if they say they don't they are either a natural or they are exaggerating, or more accurately basing it on one nights performance.

Oh finally always run very fast, never walk. Walking creates time for fear to kick in.

Judging people when drunk, will not be an accurate assessment, u need see them when they are sober. People who drink socially rarely need drink to have courage. If u drink cuz u r scared, then u will most likely get drunk, and possibly ruin some good sets.

Chow.

I'm bad and I know it.

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Hey guys, I know how you all feel. I work as a dating coach so I can honestly say that I'm very good at this but I still have approach anxiety,I'm afraid I have bad news for you guys because it never goes away with time you just learn how to control it. DO NOT LET SOMETHING THAT YOUR MIND HAS CREATED CONTROL YOU.
Ok? I'm gonna write a post with some "simple" ecercises that I'm 100% sure would help you out to learn how to control aa. Remember that is going to take time and a lot of work but they work.

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