Hey Guys,

I'll try not to ramble on too much and keep it as concise as possible. Basically, I'm 21 and have been reading pickup stuff for quite a long time now. But, I've been one of those pussys who reads it but doesn't to put it into action. I graduated from Uni in Glasgow this year and over those 4 years at Uni i didn't exactly get a lot of action. ITS TIME FOR CHANGE.

I have always been quiet around people I don't know (not just with girls), but once I get to know someone I am as loud and sociable as they come. Often I find that girls start to become attracted to me after they are in the friend zone and they know me. I think that my natural game around girls who i know is absolutely fine. I would say im good looking, in good shape, smart etc. So I think my problem mainly lies with my inner game when i comes approaching and talking to girls.

However, I don't think that doing a load of approaches to get over my AA is the answer. As it is not so much the approach that i fear, but where it might lead (i'll try my best to explain). I'm not a social retard, i can chat to people fine and have a lot of friends who are girls. However, I haven't kissed a lot of girls and i think that im not approaching because in the back of my mind i can see myself fucking things up when it comes to kino and kissing etc. I think my lack of experience has made me nervous that I will be bad at kissing and get rejected/embarrassed. How do you suggest i get over such fears, as it is not something you can really fix through doing a lot of approaches. Is it something i have to sort with my inner game? I am going to get a book on NLP to try improve myself. Just wondering if folk have any advice or have experienced something similar.

Any advice is much appreciated. Cheers.

Ok, it sound like your past the approach anxiety, which is by far the hardest part.

So, here's the gameplan. Go out like normal and get into some sets. While you are holding their attention casualy throw a little touch in there. There are many ways to do this, some much more elaborate then other. For you I sugest starting with some gestures that gently bump them on "accident", or a tap on the arm with something like a "you know what I'm sayin". There are a million ways to touch and not be creepy. A small touch first to test the watters. If she touches you back for any reason (and she likely will as long as you haven't creeped her out), I'm sure you will start to feel more comfortable about it with her. There are a thousand ways to play. Grab her hand after she does something silly or airheaded and give it a little slap as to say "NO, bad girl." Remember to be playful and make her laugh.

Now for the kiss. I'm not going to lie. There can be a right and a wrong time to move in for that innitial kiss. One meathod that has proven foolproof to me at least has been to go for holding hands. While our hands are together I wil give a quick squeeze almost like a little spasm. If she squeezes back at all its a pretty good bet that you can move in for a kiss. If she doesn't seem to react to the squeeze just gracefully move on with your night.

I hope this was helpful. This is my first reply on the board.

I know this isn't my thread, but I like to read what other people say to help improve myself just incase it can apply to me.

With that said I will be dancing with girls and I grab there hands, if they ever, even if I dont initially start it squeeze my hand, does that mean I should spin her around and kiss her?

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I would probably leave sqeeze test off the dance floor where it can be its own thing on accout of how slight and quick it should be. Play around with it, I'm sure you'll see what I'm talking about.

Now on the subject of twirling a girl around and kissing her, its all about if you can own it and play it off with confidence. That goes for anything.

I once worked with a guy who upon meeting the new girl threw a condom at her and playfuly said, "Let me know when you wanna give that back to me." Twenty minutes later they were f'ing upstairs half hour her first day on the job!

Go out there and own it my man.