I've been incredibly fortunate to have a very healthy attitude to meeting women throughout my adult life and I think more than anything else it has allowed me to sleep with such a large number of women. It's pretty simple, if you have the right attitude and goals everything else just falls into place.

1. I assume every girl wants to sleep with me. If you do just this you'll be fine, you will naturally do all these things like teasing and assuming a dominant role because you know you are the prize. If I'm rejected that's one thing, but until I meet her I'll never know, so I assume she's up for it.

2. Don't be scared to be different. This community seems filled with people planning and trying to imitate "Alpha Males". But it seem they consistently miss one key thing leaders do differently. They tend to be fashion leaders (Not mystery style random shit but actually adopting trends before they become big) Girls notice this shit, they read fashion magazines and instantly assume you are richer, more intelligent and more socially aware if you are a fashion leader.

3. Spend almost every free minute out doing fun stuff. You will never meet as many women if you are just reading on your computer.

4. Drink I know I'll get slammed on here for that one, but myself and every other "natural" I've ever met were and are borderline alcoholics. I'm not saying this is good, and you shouldn't use it as a crutch to build confidence but if you're at a bar and not drinking you look either cheap, poor or socially awkward. I don't drink in the day and have no problem picking up during the day without alcohol, but at a nightclub it makes everything more fun and takes your focus off women and puts on just having a good time.

5. Never Sarge Life's too fun to spend all your time chasing chicks. Just meet them where you are, if you don't like clubs, don't go to them, if you don't like cafes don't go to them. Go places you want to be, doing things you want to do and meet the women there. I love nightclubs and bars, so I meet three quarters or more of the women I've slept with at them, but I hate some clubs, and they're filled with women, but I don't like the music, so I don't go to them. Go places you want to be.

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You are correct.

Being able to enjoy the things you do at the same time meeting women who ALSO enjoy the same stuff is already a foundation of compatibility.

You know your stuff pretty well.

Cheers bro

BTW this is how to get the girl, not keep her after sex.

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Yeah but what can you tell me if I told you Im on that stage where I doubt myself.
I have a nice job, Im becoming a lawyer, but still I cant pull; even thou I go to bars (places I enjoy going). The one thing in bars and nightclubs is that I dont know how to dance, wich was a huge waste of time since all you really gotta do is that.

But I think inner game is my main issue here, I started noticing a while back that I dont know much about life, that the more I lear, the more I realize I dont, and such conclussion has fucked me up in a big way.

Its like very step I take, I do it kinda scared, as if waiting for a reaction.

What I aim for is a fullfilling rs, but I find myself accepting that if I wanna have a long term rs; first Ill have to get laid with the girl in order to fully know her.

So thats my question:

How do you become more secure?
Some friends told me that its like I approach the girl, but I do so like shitting my pants, I gather the courage to say hello and then I give the impression that I wanna get the fuck away from her.

Yeah but what can you tell me if I told you Im on that stage where I doubt myself.
I have a nice job, Im becoming a lawyer, but still I cant pull; even thou I go to bars (places I enjoy going). The one thing in bars and nightclubs is that I dont know how to dance, wich was a huge waste of time since all you really gotta do is that.

But I think inner game is my main issue here, I started noticing a while back that I dont know much about life, that the more I lear, the more I realize I dont, and such conclussion has fucked me up in a big way.

Its like very step I take, I do it kinda scared, as if waiting for a reaction.

What I aim for is a fullfilling rs, but I find myself accepting that if I wanna have a long term rs; first Ill have to get laid with the girl in order to fully know her.

So thats my question:

How do you become more secure?
Some friends told me that its like I approach the girl, but I do so like shitting my pants, I gather the courage to say hello and then I give the impression that I wanna get the fuck away from her.

I'll break it down as best as I know,
When you are at these places, are you enjoying yourself and meeting women by proximity, or are you going places you enjoy to meet women? I very rarely go out with the intention of meetin women, but when I am out and see a pretty girl I think, "might as well, she's here, and if she isn't into me, who gives a shit, it's still a great night."
I don't put any value on the interaction that doesn't already exist. If she is into me, awesome, sex tonight. If she isn't, who gives a shit, I might meet another girl later that is, I might not, either way I'll have a great night out with friends. No pressure.

I only dance when I'm fucked up or in a really good mood, you don't have to at all. When you're at the bar about to order a drink, there might be a beautiful girl next to you, start a conversation. It's that easy. No drama,
Go out and be active in things that give you a broader perspective on life and meet as many different types of people as possible. If you only run in one clique it's really easy to get a very narrow minded and rigid view of how people behave and how the world works. The more people you know, the more you'll realize you don't know.

Interacting with other people is great for inner game too because you'll realize you connect with different people in different ways and you have lots to offer.

You'll see some beautiful girls dating broke ugly guys because for some reason, god knows why, he's exactly her type. You can't know for sure what she is into. For all you know you're her type. You won't know until you talk to her.
That is the way it is, want a long term, awesome, but you wanna make sure you get a good one and don't settle for the first thing that comes your way. The more girls you know, the more sure you can be that she's the right one for you when you finally do meet her.

Preparation, hard work, accepting your mistakes, not beating yourself up and broadening your horizons. You can read, and that will help, but until you put it into action it's pointless. Meet guys too, not every guy is into the same girls as you. The number of times I've passed girls I wasn't that into that my friend thought was a 10 is astounding.
Go in not wanting anything more than a conversation, and see how it goes. Don't over-think. That's the problem with following a method, people overthink shit, when really, it's so easy. Most girls are nice, friendly people who are more than happy to get to know someone just because.

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well , what is the rigth atitude and goals in your opinion ?

1) but they trully do not. Like really dude , have you ever cold approach a girl ? You claim you are nto a virgin , yet how can you say every women wants to sleep with you ?

What does that even mean , old ladies want your cock ? Underage virgin girls want to jailbait you ?
And for the normal girl , what does it mean that you assume she wants to sleep with you ? Are you raping women ? If a woman says no , do you rape her cuz you assume she want to sleep with you ?

2) Different like gay or different like different hair color. What does different mean to you , and how did it help you get laid (as you claim).

3) people will think you are a retard. Like really , I have never seen in my life people on the street spending every minute doing fun stuff.

I however saw a guy named the joker , in the dark knigth movie - that was having fun every minute.

4) good for you

5) so you are afraid of cold approaching or you just do not liek to get out of the house to approach ?

1. I only assume that before I start talking to them, if it's clear they don't that's fine, but I can't know that before we start talking so I assume the best possibly outcome and that makes approaching and opening tempting, not daunting.

2. It helps everyone get laid, for me I'm very fashion conscious, into music that most girls aren't familiar with, have a few different jobs and none of them are particularly normal. Girls ask me questions and the answers aren't the normal answers guys give, hence extends interest.

3. It's my free time, I might go surfing, maybe grab coffee with a friend, play football in the park, hit a club, learn a skill in a field I'm interested in. Something fun is whatever you like, I chill out with a movie, sure, but I like to maximize my time doing fun things not just sitting around bored.

4. Thanks.

5. Not at all afraid of cold approaching, I do it all the time, but I don't make it the focus of my nights out or days out. I go out to have fun, and picking up girls is just a small amount of that fun. I don't ever ever go out to pick up, I don't ever focus on it when I'm out, but if I see a hot girl I'll talk to her. No pressure on myself, if it doesn't go well I don't give a shit because she wasn't the reason I was out, no girl was. I was out to see a band or walk my dog, some chick not being into me is the least of my concerns.

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