How in the hack I learn eye contact and look friendly at the same time??? I wanna learn how I can develop a smile, so I don't look like a I'm faking in it or a phony. I know when I do catch an eye contact I don't even crack a smile. I always look serious. Not even sure what I'm afraid of. I feel childish. Need lots of help!!!!!

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Practice in the mirror..

You should have a half assed smile on your face most of the time, when in public..

Look like you're enjoying yourself and your relaxed.

If a girl looks at you, smile.

A good way to do this, is to imagine what you'll feel like when you're unwrapping her package, and messing up her hair..

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Wow, thanks!!!!!

No problem czulsk..

Remember, proper body language as well. Stand up straight and stick your chest out a little. Keep your head and eyes up as well.

Too many guys walk around looking at their feet, and they miss half the action going on around them.

Practice walking around the house, or your room with a book on top of your head. Slow down your walk, to more of a strut as well (not too exaggerated). Nod your head at people as you pass them. Speak to hot girls. Just say 'Hi'. Then go back to your business. This will force them to notice you. Then watch them, and see if they give you any IOI's (indicators of interest, smiles, looks, etc..). Then you can approach them. Do so somewhat cautiously to keep from making them uncomfortable. Don't stand right in front of them at first, off slightly to one side.

And don't grin at them at first, or you might scare the more sensitive or younger ones off. Same with eye contact, don't stare. Women get shy too. Especially when strong, friendly men they don't know light up like a sexual blowtorch right before their eyes. But when you do look at her, look into her eyes like your staring out the back of her head. This will literally cause her to melt and she'll immediately know where you're coming from.

Remember, half assed smile. And just talk about anything happening around you or in your life. When she starts giving you IOI's, etc.. (playing with her hair, licking her lips, etc..) n-close or ask her what's she doing when she gets off work.

You can take it from there.

And remember it's ok to be shy. And the cure for shyness is action. When you get used to playing the game, and disconnect yourself from the outcome, you'll find you forget all about your shyness.

By disconnecting from the outcome I mean if nothing happens, no problem. Your life continues just the way it was before. You're just a little closer to your ultimate goal and you've built social value in the eyes of women simply by being willing to play.

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Explain this to me. This happens to me all the time. What if I notice a HB a distance away and I try to make eye contact. When they approach closer they keep on walking with out looking. They just mind there own business and not even look. Sometimes they are on there cell phones and not bother. I can't even get a glimpse. What's the deal?

This happens alot when you see women for the first time. In other words they haven't had a chance to notice you. And if you lack any commonality chances are she wont. She'll just go about her business, probably having in her mind plenty of guys in her life already.

All is not lost though.

This is the whole idea behind the mystery method and other techniques that put the emphasis on the approach and opening girls who either don't know you exist, have substantial bitch shields, or who you would normally consider out of your league, etc..

In that case, the only way to get her attention is to demand it. You do this by approaching her and opening her. Of course this is a higher degree of difficulty and is often a numbers game. It's a little easier in clubs, because the chicks are fixed in place. But outside of clubs it's more difficult to distract girls from their normal routine, everybody is just so damned busy today. Not to mention the safety factor for a hot chick engaging a stranger.

I mean chicks get hit on all the time, so you should let this stop you. Just realize when it's a lost cause and find the next one.

Remember, no matter what she says to you, if she's rude it's her problem, not yours. Next..

I would suggest you invest in a good book that covers the basics of approaching and opening strange women. Either Savoy's magic bullets, or the Art of Approaching (cheaper) which will go into these concepts in much greater detail.

Here's a link for the Art of Approaching. It's available in e-book format. I think it's around 39 bucks or so.. By leaving an email address and a name he'll send you a free mini course and info on how to purchase the book.

http://www.artofapproaching.com/

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One more thing. I understand what you just said on the last post. I should of mention that I go to college and that's how I've been noticing a lot of girls. I just wanna learn overcome social shyness and make bunch of new friends. It always seems around more dudes then the ladies.

That's natural..

Ever heard the old saying, misery likes company?

Guys that aren't getting out there and meeting girls tend to congregate together.

There's only one way to meet girls, and that's to meet them. You've got to make the effort. It's also the best way to cure your social shyness..

I wish I had a magic pill for you, but I don't.

Understanding how the social game is played is the first step and one that will give you the confidence you need to make such changes in your life and how you relate to the female student body.

And once you do, you'll discover that in many cases they are just as shy as you. All they need is Prince charming to help them a little to get over it.

Yep you guess it. You're Prince charming.

So get out there and make an effort bro. You'll never attract female friends hanging out with the guys all the time.

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Thanks a lot for the advices. It's just gets so frustrated. It's not like I don't have girls as friends, at least there ones that I don't want to hook up with. Meeting random new people is the hard part. I just need to learn to grow balls and start opening my mouth. Who knows I could be like Kosmo on the VH1 "The Pick Up Artist." Doesn't even say a word on the 1st show and he ends up winning the whole thing.

You also need to work on your body language, and eye contact skills.

When you feel shy inside, it reflects non verbally. This causes chicks to treat you differently. Because they can see it.

Look them in the eyes dominantly. This means make them break the glance. Stand up straight, face them directly, arms hanging relaxed at side and deal with 'em like a man. If you do so, one day you'll wake up and suddenly they'll be reacting to you differently. And they wont know why.

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You are a wise man Starbuck. Good Advice.

Thanks bro..

It's been a long 46 years.

And I've probably taken every lump you can imagine. And have even been sat on by fat chicks..

You know.. So you don't have too.

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