For 5 years now, I've been single. And most of that time, I've been happy to be so. But last year around the holidays, something in me kinda snapped and all of a sudden, I began to feel PROFOUNDLY lonely! It was a bizzare rush of emotions I'm still feeling. During the holidays however, I was borderline obese (245 lbs), completely out of shape. So I made a New Years Resolution to lose weight and get in shape. So now, more than 8 months later, I dropped 40 lbs (I would like to lose at least 15 more) and I've been lifting weights almost every day this year. And I tell ya, I'm starting to look pretty damn good! My arms, chest and shoulders are a lot more toned and a little more bulky than they have ever been. My confidence is coming back, but...

I feel like Tom Hanks' character in the movie Cast Away; my last relationship crashed and left me on the desert island of singlehood. Like I said, for a long time, I was content to be single, but now I have this inexplicably desperate urge for female companionship again. So, I built a raft (figuratively speaking) of what I learned from some PU material I've recently read, and I'm trying to make my escape. But like the waves Tom Hanks had to deal with in the movie, it seems like rejection after rejection keep trying to push me back to shore. The first couple of actual rejections I had didnt phase me much. I knew better than to expect success my first time out. The 3rd and 4th rejections werent so bad either. But now, I'm getting into the double digits. And I have been re-reminded of what rejection really is; individually, they dont bother me that much, but it does have an accumulative effect. They are getting harder and harder to endure.

I try to think of it this way: The more rejections I experience, the closer I get to my goal of another LTR. Does anyone else have any opinions or ideas on how deal with multiple rejections?

I'm glad you're making an effort to make your life better.. the problem is.. this skill comes only with practice.. you'l most likely get rejected a lot in the begining.. but it's important that you go throught this phase: the pain period.. you must endure all the humiliation and rejection you can, until something clicks in your head and you will see things diferently..one of the best PUA's had tolerated rejection for 6 months.. going out 6 days a week.. aproaching 8 to 10 sets each day.. and he didn't got results for almost 6 months.. but after his pain period.. things started clicking and he became more aware of the mistakes he made when interacting wih a women. His name is DJ FuJI and his story will inspire you.. watch him on youtube under the 21 convention - DJ FUJI..so my advice to you is.. approach the most sets you can.. and have a wingman.. there's nothing better to have your best buddy near you when you begin a journey like PU.. have fun and hope I helped!

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Oh my god do you think that 20 rejections is a lot???Lol , dude , cry about if you get rejected more than 1000 times,and when you still can't get laid then ,then you know youre doing something very very wrong,because after 1000 you sure as hell won't care about rejection,which will increase confindence and reduce AA ,which by themselves get you laid.

I don't know why but the last sentence you said was really awesome and true lol

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WOW! 1000 rejections!?!? You guys must have even less game than I have! Before I even met my last girlfriend, I NEVER had that much trouble!!! I dont think I've even had to deal with so much as 100 rejections in my whole LIFE!

You guys are right though. I just need to man up more. The more rejections I face, the more desensitized I should be to them. That's what everyone keeps telling me anyway.

Don't brag about your skills or that you are better than others buddy.. this forum is to help people get better at this..

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Hey man, I'm not bragging at all! When I say I've only had to deal with less than 100 rejections in my whole life, what I really mean is - I have so little experience approaching women, that I havent had the opporotunity to have been rejected that much!

It does seem completely unreasonable however, that anyone would have to deal with that much rejection between successes. I would think that even the ugliest, most untalented AFC could score with an HB9 or 10 simply out of pity if he tries at least a couple hundred times or so...

But, maybe I'm wrong. I'm gonna find out one way or another!

I wasn't saying 1000 rejection literarly , but yeah.Oh and btw , most Mpuas have defineatly had over 1000 rejections in their whole life,because they have aprroached so many girls a lot of them refused in the meantime,while in the meantime a lot of them banged.But yeah,if you want to be a good pua , you don't have to fear rejection.
It also depends dude.Most of the HB9 and HB10 are as rare as you can ,sure if you want to approach only hb9 and hb10 you will get one by the hundredth approach or so if you suck now,but usually we got to hb7-hb10 and hb7-hb8 are so easy to find that you will always go up to them,and the HB9-hb10 will be harder to approach cuz they're hotter and the chance of failure will be very high,which means by 100 approach you won't get laid with one.Which also means that it's pretty damn good if you have high standards,but for beginning you should get used to talking to girls and strangers (for practice).

Hey bro! Really nice resolution btw!

Aight, so my tip to you would be to work hard on alpha male traits. Another thing that might help you is enjoying yourself dude! People find you even more attractive (men and women) if you seem like having fun in your social interactions (omg, such robot-like term! couldn't find better tho xD)

Oh, and don't even count your rejections, and this goes to all PUAs / rAFC in here : Counting rejections just get your morale down. Don't even give a fuck. If people are too much of an ass and reject you, they're the ones who are complete tools!

I got more on my mind, but I can't seem to be able to verbalize whats in there..!

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