How to get over my awkardness



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PostPosted: Thu May 12, 2011 12:56 am 
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When i dont know people very well i tend to act very awkwardly and tend to not act my self. When i am around my friends and family i tend to act funny, be loud, and really feel more free when i am. How can i stop being so awkward in front of people i am not comfortable with


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PostPosted: Fri May 13, 2011 2:29 pm 
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I feel you buddy i am the same though when i dont know people i tend to be silent


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PostPosted: Fri May 13, 2011 6:59 pm 
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Make that three I also need some help with that... what I usually do is talk about something comfortable that both parties would have something to talk about. that helps me a lot. Like today I was at the tire shop and some random lady said "hello" I replay but felt kind of weird... there were like a 5 sec silence windows between questions and I brought up the weather so that ease up the convo then I asked her if she knew any good restaurants around the area and the awkwardness just dissolved away. Another good thing to do is try a newbie exercise like saying hi to a large amount of unknown people in a day.


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PostPosted: Fri May 13, 2011 9:00 pm 
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Start going out and meeting alot of people. When you notice yourself start to get weird n nontalkative literally stand up shake it off n just go. I have always been very popular but not always good with girls. This helped me alot cause I have just been used to partying, meeting new people and having a good time. What the issue is, is that u r scared of their judgements about u. Fuck what they think tho. When I go into a social situation, especially if I don't know anyone I just start talking to people. Use little observational humor or anything. The one thing to realize is its alot more socially acceptable to be a complete weirdo who is part of the group, than a "normal" guy in the corner by himself. You have to let go of the fear. The best way is to just go. When you feel yourself tensing up, literally shake ur arms, let go of the scared energy, and embrace the new situation with wide-eyed wonder. Once you get it in your head that fear is ok, and its not going to stop you from action, you will be winning. Everyone gets some kind of fear n nervousness in a new situation, you just have to accept it n not let it mess with your actions. Start acting...its ok to be scared.


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